I wish he could see how us not having sex enough has my self esteem in tatters. I feel unattractive, unloved, lonely. I just dont know what to do anymore. We are in counselling and are just going to start to talk about intimacy which I think is going to be useful but very difficult.
I'm so sexually frustrated, I'm going out tonight with the girls and I hate it when people who don't know me come on to me. It makes me feel the way I should with my husband - attractice, desired and wanted. Don't get me wrong it doesn't make me feel loved as they don't know me at all. It's such a self esteem booster though and I find myself wanting to cheat on my husband coz I want to feel attractive and desired. Why do other people make me feel like this but my husband doesn't. Instead I just go home pissed and miserable and alone as usual. He won't ever be intitmate with me when I've got done up and gone out. It all makes me feel so undesired. I'm so miserable. We fight a lot about sex (the lack of it). He just tells me he's too tired etc. I just don't get why he wont try it on in the middle of the day if that's the issue. We don't have any hobbies and rarely do things together at weekends. He is just happy watching the telly. So there's at least a day a week he could approach me during the day when he's got more energy!! He doesn't get that if we went and did things together I could connect with him emotionally doing that and that sex might not be as big an issue. As it stands I only ever feel emotonally connected to him when we have intercourse this makes me crave intercourse. We have sex about 2-3 times a month and have been married less than three months. I'm seriously worried we'll get divorced. I can't put up with this lack of sex for the rest of my life. Maybe I shouldn't have married him and I did have doubts before the wedding but we did make a bit of progress in terms of the rest of our relationship. I guess I dared to hope that things would get better.
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I wish he could see how us not having sex enough has my self esteem in tatters. I feel unattractive, unloved, lonely. I just dont know what to do anymore. We are in counselling and are just going to start to talk about intimacy which I think is going to be useful but very difficult.
I'm so sexually frustrated, I'm going out tonight with the girls and I hate it when people who don't know me come on to me. It makes me feel the way I should with my husband - attractice, desired and wanted. Don't get me wrong it doesn't make me feel loved as they don't know me at all. It's such a self esteem booster though and I find myself wanting to cheat on my husband coz I want to feel attractive and desired. Why do other people make me feel like this but my husband doesn't. Instead I just go home pissed and miserable and alone as usual. He won't ever be intitmate with me when I've got done up and gone out. It all makes me feel so undesired. I'm so miserable. We fight a lot about sex (the lack of it). He just tells me he's too tired etc. I just don't get why he wont try it on in the middle of the day if that's the issue. We don't have any hobbies and rarely do things together at weekends. He is just happy watching the telly. So there's at least a day a week he could approach me during the day when he's got more energy!! He doesn't get that if we went and did things together I could connect with him emotionally doing that and that sex might not be as big an issue. As it stands I only ever feel emotonally connected to him when we have intercourse this makes me crave intercourse. We have sex about 2-3 times a month and have been married less than three months. I'm seriously worried we'll get divorced. I can't put up with this lack of sex for the rest of my life. Maybe I shouldn't have married him and I did have doubts before the wedding but we did make a bit of progress in terms of the rest of our relationship. I guess I dared to hope that things would get better.
July 19, 2014 - 5:46amThis Comment
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