The responses created a context for talking with my husband. It was as if we were at a marriage retreat, in a group discussion about my experience and perception of this old problem. We both had the feeling that we weren't alone in the discussion, as we considered each response. We have never had such a constructive discussion of my feelings, my hurt feelings, and about the communication problem in our marriage. I felt he was able to understand the problem without feeling so defensive that we couldn't discuss what has happened through the years.
I appreciate everyone's thoughtful response. I am surprised how effective the input has been in creating context. I wasn't just a crabby menopausal woman drudging up the past, and being uncool about a lack of feeling appreciated.
This was the most constructive process I have ever experiened. I find it weird that the comments were so helpful.
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The responses created a context for talking with my husband. It was as if we were at a marriage retreat, in a group discussion about my experience and perception of this old problem. We both had the feeling that we weren't alone in the discussion, as we considered each response. We have never had such a constructive discussion of my feelings, my hurt feelings, and about the communication problem in our marriage. I felt he was able to understand the problem without feeling so defensive that we couldn't discuss what has happened through the years.
I appreciate everyone's thoughtful response. I am surprised how effective the input has been in creating context. I wasn't just a crabby menopausal woman drudging up the past, and being uncool about a lack of feeling appreciated.
This was the most constructive process I have ever experiened. I find it weird that the comments were so helpful.
Thanks everyone for taking the time to respond.
June 16, 2010 - 1:26pmThis Comment
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