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I’ve been with my husband for 6 years and married for two and a half. I’m 38 and he’s 47. There is zero intimacy in this relationship, never mind sex and I’m finding myself thinking more and more about divorce. We have 2 kids - my 18 year old from a previous relationship and our 4 year old.
If I initiate anything more than a peck on the cheek, the excuses start flowing - I’m tired, I’m too warm, I’ve just eaten, I’m going for a shower etc. I’ve booked hotel rooms to try and liven things up but he’s always asleep before I’ve got my coat off! So I go to the bar and get a few drinks in. Sometimes I’ll get chatted up but I’m not a cheater and always make my excuses and go back to the room and watch tv while gently seething listening to him snoring.

He’s never arranged or paid for a date night in 6 years, it’s always down to me. I’m really starting to resent him but as a stay at home mum with absolutely no income of my own, leaving is just a pipe dream. The only money I get is child benefit which is £20 a week which I’m expected to feed everyone with. None of it ever goes on my child and it’s wrong!

I couldn’t feel less desirable, attractive or wanted if I tried. I’m up at 5am every morning making his breakfast and I feel he just wants a maid to do his cooking, washing and cleaning for him. He hates interacting with our kids, he’d rather be face down in his phone.

I’m at my wits end and desperately looking for a way out of this hell. I’ve tried talking to him about this but I’m always the one “looking for problems that aren’t there”, being pushy or I’m crowding him. If I had the finances to leave I’d take my kids and go while he’s at work. I feel trapped and I feel that I don’t even know who this man is that I’ve married.

July 31, 2018 - 10:16pm

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