First of all, thank you. Your post was the most insightful, brutally honest, post I've read in the last few months on these blogs. It was, refreshing, albeit a real downer. The most interesting thing you said was that sex is "between the ears". Many men find me attractive but not my husband. Although I've tried to watch the porn he's into and change my appearance, dye my hair to look like Scarlet O'Hare and clean the house in a maid's outfit without underwear on, my husband remains completely unaffected (I might as well have been in my gym clothes). I've offered three Somes which turned into heated arguments about how "he's not one of my liberal polyamerous friends", and I've offered to make steamy sex tapes which were met with hostile remarks about how they would get leaked onto the Internet and ruin his career. Lingerie has no effect whatsoever...and don't get me wrong, I'm not boring in the bedroom. I'm into link and bondage and whatever else he would want to do. Day after day, I go unnoticed. He says "coming onto him has the same effect as putting a gun to his head and threatening to pull the trigger". So I backed off and stopped initiating. He'll start something like shove my hands down his pants on the kitchen and then pull away from me remarking that "he has a hankering for waffles". It's a waking nightmare trying to read his coy gestures.
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First of all, thank you. Your post was the most insightful, brutally honest, post I've read in the last few months on these blogs. It was, refreshing, albeit a real downer. The most interesting thing you said was that sex is "between the ears". Many men find me attractive but not my husband. Although I've tried to watch the porn he's into and change my appearance, dye my hair to look like Scarlet O'Hare and clean the house in a maid's outfit without underwear on, my husband remains completely unaffected (I might as well have been in my gym clothes). I've offered three Somes which turned into heated arguments about how "he's not one of my liberal polyamerous friends", and I've offered to make steamy sex tapes which were met with hostile remarks about how they would get leaked onto the Internet and ruin his career. Lingerie has no effect whatsoever...and don't get me wrong, I'm not boring in the bedroom. I'm into link and bondage and whatever else he would want to do. Day after day, I go unnoticed. He says "coming onto him has the same effect as putting a gun to his head and threatening to pull the trigger". So I backed off and stopped initiating. He'll start something like shove my hands down his pants on the kitchen and then pull away from me remarking that "he has a hankering for waffles". It's a waking nightmare trying to read his coy gestures.
November 22, 2015 - 8:19pmThis Comment
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