Thanks for your advice. When i invited her 6 weeks before my boyfriend spoke to her and told her it was not her birthday party. and we all agreed! she was invited 2 a party that my birth mums sister spent alot of money on and she let us have it all for free.. i think she was very rude to come into a party where she did not know anyone and turn it into hers. when she said sorry she blamed it on the drink. she is a 33year old woman she should not blame it on the drink at all.