I know it's tough, but your comment that you don't want to "lose him"... that was my previous point. You don't really "have him" now, exclusively, anyways.
It does not sound like he is interested in committing exclusively to a relationship at this point, and you do not need to make a lifetime decision. You can make a decision today that you want a mutually exclusive relationship with someone, and if he is unwilling/uninterested in providing this...this really isn't even a decision anymore as just acting on the facts.
Otherwise, if you only want him...it sounds like you need to share him with other women. Those are the options he has presented to you, and I know it makes you feel very sad, and I am so sorry...but his behaviors are showing you that he is not as invested in the long term health of an exclusive relationship with you.
If you are unable to financially support yourself right now, you can begin to save up money, and it is important to be able to support yourself FIRST as a strong and independent woman, and not be forced to make a decision-of-the-heart (romantic relationship) based on finances. Perhaps this is a blessing-in-disguise for you to become independent without depending on a man. (Think about it: would you want a man to be forced to stay in a romantic relationship with you, if the only reason was because he couldn't afford to live by himself?!).
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I know it's tough, but your comment that you don't want to "lose him"... that was my previous point. You don't really "have him" now, exclusively, anyways.
It does not sound like he is interested in committing exclusively to a relationship at this point, and you do not need to make a lifetime decision. You can make a decision today that you want a mutually exclusive relationship with someone, and if he is unwilling/uninterested in providing this...this really isn't even a decision anymore as just acting on the facts.
Otherwise, if you only want him...it sounds like you need to share him with other women. Those are the options he has presented to you, and I know it makes you feel very sad, and I am so sorry...but his behaviors are showing you that he is not as invested in the long term health of an exclusive relationship with you.
If you are unable to financially support yourself right now, you can begin to save up money, and it is important to be able to support yourself FIRST as a strong and independent woman, and not be forced to make a decision-of-the-heart (romantic relationship) based on finances. Perhaps this is a blessing-in-disguise for you to become independent without depending on a man. (Think about it: would you want a man to be forced to stay in a romantic relationship with you, if the only reason was because he couldn't afford to live by himself?!).
February 15, 2011 - 10:54amThis Comment
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