Dear lTaylor398,
Good for you with your reply; and believe me, I do understand exactly what you are saying here. There have been those times in my husband's and my relationship where he has done the same. I wanted to 'cook his goose'. The low "self esteem" you speak of; I understand also, but this man is not your 'friend' if he has done this to you on a continous basis where you start to believe it yourself. I almost had him having me believe this for a fragile moment in our relationship. I then turn to all my inner strengths, and say, "If this man wants me, and needs me, and thinks I am the best person for him to be with; he - by golly, will turn it around; as a friend, and show this. He, (my husband) has done it with me time and time again. He always says, "How stupid I was to have lost myself and hurt you." It is "Friends" making up. Nobody has the right or power to take another's "self esteem" away. If a person continues with this on a regular basis; you are so right. If this would be my husband; I would not "run for the hills"; however. I would point out to my husband those hills, and send him on his way on the 'downward' slopes. Oh, and I would make sure to tell him to look up; in that, it is where I will be...
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Dear lTaylor398,
Good for you with your reply; and believe me, I do understand exactly what you are saying here. There have been those times in my husband's and my relationship where he has done the same. I wanted to 'cook his goose'. The low "self esteem" you speak of; I understand also, but this man is not your 'friend' if he has done this to you on a continous basis where you start to believe it yourself. I almost had him having me believe this for a fragile moment in our relationship. I then turn to all my inner strengths, and say, "If this man wants me, and needs me, and thinks I am the best person for him to be with; he - by golly, will turn it around; as a friend, and show this. He, (my husband) has done it with me time and time again. He always says, "How stupid I was to have lost myself and hurt you." It is "Friends" making up. Nobody has the right or power to take another's "self esteem" away. If a person continues with this on a regular basis; you are so right. If this would be my husband; I would not "run for the hills"; however. I would point out to my husband those hills, and send him on his way on the 'downward' slopes. Oh, and I would make sure to tell him to look up; in that, it is where I will be...
Blessings to you, dear.
December 31, 2009 - 3:15amThis Comment
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