I agree with you SeeDandy1 to a certain extent, however sometimes the damage that you do to yourself by living with these beliefs may never be healed. I have spent the last 14 years of my life being best friend to some one who has never returned the honor. Not because he does not love me but because he is incapable and does not understand how. Part of the problem is that he has no empathy when it comes to our relationship, but has enough for anybody else. I did not want just give up and throw in the towel as I also believe that it is too easy for people to get away from responsibility and the lesson that is needed for whatever bump in the road (relationship) comes up. If not learned, the lesson will pop up in the next relationship. I love this man with all of my heart and I know that he loves me, but I have killed my self esteem by staying with some one that has his priorities all screwed up. One needs to have things like loyalty, respect, honor, and adoration returned to not lose self respect. When you feel like you are less that nothing to your "best friend" but he insists you are not after treating you badly, let go and run for the hills and don't look back. No friends and buddy buddy to it. It hurts too much.
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I agree with you SeeDandy1 to a certain extent, however sometimes the damage that you do to yourself by living with these beliefs may never be healed. I have spent the last 14 years of my life being best friend to some one who has never returned the honor. Not because he does not love me but because he is incapable and does not understand how. Part of the problem is that he has no empathy when it comes to our relationship, but has enough for anybody else. I did not want just give up and throw in the towel as I also believe that it is too easy for people to get away from responsibility and the lesson that is needed for whatever bump in the road (relationship) comes up. If not learned, the lesson will pop up in the next relationship. I love this man with all of my heart and I know that he loves me, but I have killed my self esteem by staying with some one that has his priorities all screwed up. One needs to have things like loyalty, respect, honor, and adoration returned to not lose self respect. When you feel like you are less that nothing to your "best friend" but he insists you are not after treating you badly, let go and run for the hills and don't look back. No friends and buddy buddy to it. It hurts too much.
December 31, 2009 - 1:32amThis Comment
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