Hi Eliz92757 - Happy to listen, anytime. I'm glad to hear you have a great primary care doctor, that makes a world of difference. I have a great one too.
In terms on the chills you experienced, when a bladder infection spreads to the kidneys it can cause chills...and it can also cause a fever. Here's a link with a lot of helpful information: http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/000521.htm
It might be helpful to join a local support group where you can talk with others in person and not only get support but help give it as well. I found a list online that has a wide variety of groups. One that struck me that you might like was: Uniquely Woman: Counseling/support group for women meets at 6 p.m. each Mon., 1900 Church St., Suite 300. $10 per session. 321-4200. Will you give the list a look? http://lindaarbaughpatin.com/supportgroups.html#p