we are a sick society that can hardly cope with diversity at all. a friend visited portugal where all age groups socialise together- none of the segregation and concommitant generation gaps so rife in the US and the 'west'. the 'west' is so 'civilised' we want to do away with anyone over 40. we ignore and hide our older people. we are pathologically afraid of aging, and of all images associated with it.
i've skin a different colour than that of the other mums so i look funny. OMG my child is going to be embarrassed by me because i'm not IDENTICAL to all the other mums.
get over it. your poor character, your shame about your 'too old' (not identical) mother was something that with maturity you should have grown out of, that, all else being more or less as it should, have evolved into gratitude and pride.
I believe that the anti-standpoint is about more than just the possibility of the mother dying. it's a much more visceral general revulsion of the mental image of someone not perfectly smooth and youthful-looking being a mother. yet think of the life-experience and wisdom an older mother could contribute to her children's personality development.
i say to the 66 year-old GO AHEAD and conceive. it's a rare enough occurrence to have very little economic impact. compare the cost of the care for these orphans to the cost of the ghastly diabetes and obesity-inducing diet so many people in the 'west' enjoy. so we gorge ourselves to death and don't educate each other in healthy living, then we begrudge one individual's choice to take decisive steps to fulfill herself. i know where my sympathies lie, and it's not with the consumers.
furthermore, imagine being those kids, knowing how much they were wanted and loved, that their mother went to such lengths to bring them down here. i'd rather be one of those cherished orphans than one of the legions of unloved children of ill-educated and irresponsible girls of 20.
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we are a sick society that can hardly cope with diversity at all. a friend visited portugal where all age groups socialise together- none of the segregation and concommitant generation gaps so rife in the US and the 'west'. the 'west' is so 'civilised' we want to do away with anyone over 40. we ignore and hide our older people. we are pathologically afraid of aging, and of all images associated with it.
i've skin a different colour than that of the other mums so i look funny. OMG my child is going to be embarrassed by me because i'm not IDENTICAL to all the other mums.
get over it. your poor character, your shame about your 'too old' (not identical) mother was something that with maturity you should have grown out of, that, all else being more or less as it should, have evolved into gratitude and pride.
I believe that the anti-standpoint is about more than just the possibility of the mother dying. it's a much more visceral general revulsion of the mental image of someone not perfectly smooth and youthful-looking being a mother. yet think of the life-experience and wisdom an older mother could contribute to her children's personality development.
i say to the 66 year-old GO AHEAD and conceive. it's a rare enough occurrence to have very little economic impact. compare the cost of the care for these orphans to the cost of the ghastly diabetes and obesity-inducing diet so many people in the 'west' enjoy. so we gorge ourselves to death and don't educate each other in healthy living, then we begrudge one individual's choice to take decisive steps to fulfill herself. i know where my sympathies lie, and it's not with the consumers.
furthermore, imagine being those kids, knowing how much they were wanted and loved, that their mother went to such lengths to bring them down here. i'd rather be one of those cherished orphans than one of the legions of unloved children of ill-educated and irresponsible girls of 20.
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