I have already participated in this topic. I am Hope. I have faced the same intercourse fear issue and have had lived with my husband for 13 months with no intercourse. I had so many psychological illusions and mental problems, and I have suffered greatly from the "idea" of doing intercourse, and so did my husband too. However, I started to take "ownership" for the marriage as it is, and have started to take the idea of intercourse more seriously. I spent months thinking about how to "avoid" intercourse and this was a big waste, so I decided to think about how to "overcome" intercourse fear, and have, eventually started to talk about doing intercourse. Talking with my husband was big step to heal. I started talking about "post" intercourse and how our marriage will be greater, and then, I started to feel that I can do it! My husband and I decided that I take initiation in intercourse, that I make the insertion and that I do it on my own pace. we started by getting both organs closer, and gradually, I started to feel "desire" bigger than "fear" to insert, and after many "small" insertions, we overcome this psychological issue together! For the record, I've visited a gynecologist and she told me that my hymen is very thick, the reason why I couldn't insert. But the truth of my experience says that I was "afraid" and once I get rid of fear, I could do proper intercourse, with no artificial lubricant. I hope that my personal experience could give HOPE to other women and that it helps make their intimate life better. Best to all.
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I have already participated in this topic. I am Hope. I have faced the same intercourse fear issue and have had lived with my husband for 13 months with no intercourse. I had so many psychological illusions and mental problems, and I have suffered greatly from the "idea" of doing intercourse, and so did my husband too. However, I started to take "ownership" for the marriage as it is, and have started to take the idea of intercourse more seriously. I spent months thinking about how to "avoid" intercourse and this was a big waste, so I decided to think about how to "overcome" intercourse fear, and have, eventually started to talk about doing intercourse. Talking with my husband was big step to heal. I started talking about "post" intercourse and how our marriage will be greater, and then, I started to feel that I can do it! My husband and I decided that I take initiation in intercourse, that I make the insertion and that I do it on my own pace. we started by getting both organs closer, and gradually, I started to feel "desire" bigger than "fear" to insert, and after many "small" insertions, we overcome this psychological issue together! For the record, I've visited a gynecologist and she told me that my hymen is very thick, the reason why I couldn't insert. But the truth of my experience says that I was "afraid" and once I get rid of fear, I could do proper intercourse, with no artificial lubricant. I hope that my personal experience could give HOPE to other women and that it helps make their intimate life better. Best to all.
October 11, 2012 - 4:00amHope
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