Shelley,
I am glad you are getting help for your EDs, and am sorry that you have had to suffer from such illnesses.
I'm not sure which mom you are talking about in your post, but i want to reply to you. You state "I think the issue isn't WHY your daughter became anorexic - it's HOW you can get her the best help." The blog post by Joanna explores her perception of the WHY, and that was what we are responding to. Joanna states that "Early in their lives, people with eating disorders have experienced, on a sustained basis, relentless boundary invasion on every level." This is very different from acknowledging that all children have their boundaries crossed sometimes by their parents, which is what you said. I agree with you. I don't agree with Joanna that all ED sufferers had either constant inappropriate penetration of boundaries OR constant neglect. She says this is a theme that runs through all ED victims.
I, like most other parents of children with EDs I'm sure, have worked hard to make sure my child had the best treatment available. We don't like, however, seeing negative blanket statements about how we treated our children before ED manifested. Joanna doesn't know what went on in our house. And, believe me, it was a nice life. Our very normal college-age son had the same parenting and environment.
Kristine
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Shelley,
I am glad you are getting help for your EDs, and am sorry that you have had to suffer from such illnesses.
I'm not sure which mom you are talking about in your post, but i want to reply to you. You state "I think the issue isn't WHY your daughter became anorexic - it's HOW you can get her the best help." The blog post by Joanna explores her perception of the WHY, and that was what we are responding to. Joanna states that "Early in their lives, people with eating disorders have experienced, on a sustained basis, relentless boundary invasion on every level." This is very different from acknowledging that all children have their boundaries crossed sometimes by their parents, which is what you said. I agree with you. I don't agree with Joanna that all ED sufferers had either constant inappropriate penetration of boundaries OR constant neglect. She says this is a theme that runs through all ED victims.
I, like most other parents of children with EDs I'm sure, have worked hard to make sure my child had the best treatment available. We don't like, however, seeing negative blanket statements about how we treated our children before ED manifested. Joanna doesn't know what went on in our house. And, believe me, it was a nice life. Our very normal college-age son had the same parenting and environment.
June 8, 2009 - 9:13amKristine
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