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Well Anonymous I am extremely happy you commented, even though you're not sure why you did. And I'm equally concerned that you have gone a life time keeping this to yourself. I know the trauma that's been brewing in your mind. There was a time when my mom advised me not to share it, "people can be cruel" she said. But no one is more cruel to us than ourselves. Keeping it all bottled up makes it seem like a bigger deal than it actually is. It magnifies the the "freak" factor in your own mind and chips away at your self esteem. I still have to remind myself sometimes that it is not a big deal. I don't care who knows now. My girlfriends are envious that I don't bleed. We laugh about it. It's the best medicine. Lots of people you know have impairments and conditions of one kind or another. Being flawed is normal and beautiful. So you need to sit on dilators to open that thing up. BIG DEAL! I can think of worse things! :-) Not at 18 I couldn't, of course, but today? Eh. Been through worse. I completely understand your feelings of inadequacy and still struggle a bit with it myself. But the MRKH is just a thing you have, it doesn't define you. Feel free to contact me directly at [email protected]
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Well Anonymous I am extremely happy you commented, even though you're not sure why you did. And I'm equally concerned that you have gone a life time keeping this to yourself. I know the trauma that's been brewing in your mind. There was a time when my mom advised me not to share it, "people can be cruel" she said. But no one is more cruel to us than ourselves. Keeping it all bottled up makes it seem like a bigger deal than it actually is. It magnifies the the "freak" factor in your own mind and chips away at your self esteem. I still have to remind myself sometimes that it is not a big deal. I don't care who knows now. My girlfriends are envious that I don't bleed. We laugh about it. It's the best medicine. Lots of people you know have impairments and conditions of one kind or another. Being flawed is normal and beautiful. So you need to sit on dilators to open that thing up. BIG DEAL! I can think of worse things! :-) Not at 18 I couldn't, of course, but today? Eh. Been through worse. I completely understand your feelings of inadequacy and still struggle a bit with it myself. But the MRKH is just a thing you have, it doesn't define you. Feel free to contact me directly at [email protected]
July 18, 2009 - 8:54amThis Comment
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