I wish I could add some advice? Prior to my beautiful new boyfrined I would have advised a neutral ground and comfortable spot to discuss how you feel? But after 30 years of having 4 very long term relationships I have found myself in a similar situation/ I met my boyfriend and with in the first week to my horror he turned me down twice!! This was very foreighn ground for me and too be honest it reduced what I considered to be a very confident and extremely comfortable woman regarding her sexuality to a insecure mess. All these new emotions arose from within me that I have never ever had to deal with before? I have since realised and found out he has from the time he was very young always considered sex to be " bluntly" watching porn and masturbating.. Thats basically it! I have spoken to him at lenght about the intimacy surrounding making love that I feel obviously you dont get from a porn movie...His response was... sex is sooooo much of an effort! I know that he loves me, but I feel sex to him is an act and a function that he performs only once in a while. I guess the biggest problem I have is that Im willing to compromise and settle for maybe a couple of times per week, but I do want it only if he feels like it, then iy hits me everytime! THE MAN I LOVE HAS NO DESIRE TO HAVE SEX WITH ME...SO DOES THAT MEAN HE TRULY LOVES ME OR AM I JUST COMPANY? If anyone has any advice or comments i would greatly appreciate it. Im finding Im scared I missing out on the love and affection that comes with making love
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I wish I could add some advice? Prior to my beautiful new boyfrined I would have advised a neutral ground and comfortable spot to discuss how you feel? But after 30 years of having 4 very long term relationships I have found myself in a similar situation/ I met my boyfriend and with in the first week to my horror he turned me down twice!! This was very foreighn ground for me and too be honest it reduced what I considered to be a very confident and extremely comfortable woman regarding her sexuality to a insecure mess. All these new emotions arose from within me that I have never ever had to deal with before? I have since realised and found out he has from the time he was very young always considered sex to be " bluntly" watching porn and masturbating.. Thats basically it! I have spoken to him at lenght about the intimacy surrounding making love that I feel obviously you dont get from a porn movie...His response was... sex is sooooo much of an effort! I know that he loves me, but I feel sex to him is an act and a function that he performs only once in a while. I guess the biggest problem I have is that Im willing to compromise and settle for maybe a couple of times per week, but I do want it only if he feels like it, then iy hits me everytime! THE MAN I LOVE HAS NO DESIRE TO HAVE SEX WITH ME...SO DOES THAT MEAN HE TRULY LOVES ME OR AM I JUST COMPANY? If anyone has any advice or comments i would greatly appreciate it. Im finding Im scared I missing out on the love and affection that comes with making love
Please if you have any advice let me know
November 19, 2011 - 6:49amThis Comment
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