Thanks for your post. I understand that you are upset with him but understand that two wrongs don't make a right. If you really want things between your boyfriend to work out then you're better off by sitting him down and having a heartfelt talk as opposed to declaring war. You may even have to come clean about going through his history. I think that the fact that he watches porn doesn't mean he doesn't love you and it certainly doesn't mean that he isn't interested in sex with you any more. Remember that when a couple is first dating, the excitement of it being a new relationship is a big reason why there is so much sex, love, and happiness in that "honeymoon" period. In many relationships, that excitement starts to dwindle once the couple is comfortable with each other and that's when it is up to you BOTH to change that direction--communicate, keep things exciting, don't be afraid to share your fantasies with each other. You'll find that you get much more out of him by taking that route than by saying "Well if you won't have sex with me then I don't want sex with you either" Think about it.
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Hi Anon,
Thanks for your post. I understand that you are upset with him but understand that two wrongs don't make a right. If you really want things between your boyfriend to work out then you're better off by sitting him down and having a heartfelt talk as opposed to declaring war. You may even have to come clean about going through his history. I think that the fact that he watches porn doesn't mean he doesn't love you and it certainly doesn't mean that he isn't interested in sex with you any more. Remember that when a couple is first dating, the excitement of it being a new relationship is a big reason why there is so much sex, love, and happiness in that "honeymoon" period. In many relationships, that excitement starts to dwindle once the couple is comfortable with each other and that's when it is up to you BOTH to change that direction--communicate, keep things exciting, don't be afraid to share your fantasies with each other. You'll find that you get much more out of him by taking that route than by saying "Well if you won't have sex with me then I don't want sex with you either" Think about it.
Best Wishes,
Rosa
July 14, 2011 - 8:29amThis Comment
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