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Wow, I thought I was the only guy with this problem. I'm a man, and I love my girlfriend dearly. She's gorgeous and she's sweet, cute, hot, sexy, adorable, and very sassy. She's the whole package and my heart is breaking because I fear I might lose her. We've been together for almost 6 months now. I love this girl with all my heart. But I don't know what the hell is wrong with me. This is the first time I experience something like this. I'm just not in the mood to have sex. And I know that our relationship is in jeopardy because of that. I'm not cheating on her and I don't think I have to deal with higher amount of stress than most people do (I'm a full time student and work part-time.) I'm still very affectionate to her. We're just not having sex very often (maybe 1-2 times a week)
My girlfriend has a higher sexual appetite than I do.
I exercise regularly and practice martial arts. I have a social life. Both me and my girlfriend are very attractive not just because of looks but because we're very charismatic and friendly. So we both often have to ward people off because we're committed to each other.
Could it be possible that maybe I just need a bit of space, or time away from her? We're together almost 24 / 7. I told her that last night. I don't need the time alone to go party or meet other people. I just want to chill by myself sometimes, do my school work uninterrupted, and go to the gym more often, as I did before I started my relationship with her (I used to go 4-5 times a week, now it varies from 2-4 times a week)
My girlfriend told me that maybe I should play with her flower or use a vibrator on her... and my reply to that is "how can I play with you sexually and do a good job if I'm not in the mood for it"?
I have a therapist I normally talk to about my life goals and experiences, and I will share this issue with him... if he tells me something worth sharing I'll definitely come back here and share it with you all :)
I just ask you, please, man or woman, to work things through with your partner before jumping to conclusions.
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Wow, I thought I was the only guy with this problem. I'm a man, and I love my girlfriend dearly. She's gorgeous and she's sweet, cute, hot, sexy, adorable, and very sassy. She's the whole package and my heart is breaking because I fear I might lose her. We've been together for almost 6 months now. I love this girl with all my heart. But I don't know what the hell is wrong with me. This is the first time I experience something like this. I'm just not in the mood to have sex. And I know that our relationship is in jeopardy because of that. I'm not cheating on her and I don't think I have to deal with higher amount of stress than most people do (I'm a full time student and work part-time.) I'm still very affectionate to her. We're just not having sex very often (maybe 1-2 times a week)
My girlfriend has a higher sexual appetite than I do.
I exercise regularly and practice martial arts. I have a social life. Both me and my girlfriend are very attractive not just because of looks but because we're very charismatic and friendly. So we both often have to ward people off because we're committed to each other.
Could it be possible that maybe I just need a bit of space, or time away from her? We're together almost 24 / 7. I told her that last night. I don't need the time alone to go party or meet other people. I just want to chill by myself sometimes, do my school work uninterrupted, and go to the gym more often, as I did before I started my relationship with her (I used to go 4-5 times a week, now it varies from 2-4 times a week)
My girlfriend told me that maybe I should play with her flower or use a vibrator on her... and my reply to that is "how can I play with you sexually and do a good job if I'm not in the mood for it"?
I have a therapist I normally talk to about my life goals and experiences, and I will share this issue with him... if he tells me something worth sharing I'll definitely come back here and share it with you all :)
I just ask you, please, man or woman, to work things through with your partner before jumping to conclusions.
-RJ
June 7, 2011 - 10:03amThis Comment
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