Hey so did you make it 2weeks? Did this work? I loved the advice you responded to. I've tried it all though...except taking sex off the table for more than a few days. So I'm curious if that worked for you. I'm not sure I have it in me to not even attempt to initiate sex for that long. My sex drive & desire for intimacy and being/feeling wanted always seems to take over before my fiancé feels inclined to have sex.
We've been together for 3 years and the first 1 1/2 hrs we made love constantly and it was always amazing, passionate, seriously fireworks. When I moved in 1 1/2 yrs ago, stress at work caused a bit of a decline in the frequency in which we had sex but not the quality. Then it gradually declined even more. He began turning me down and responding very negatively to my flirtations and initiations for sex. His reasoning is always stress at work (which is true) and that it's not the most important thing to him in a relationship. Like many of the other contributors here, I've almost stopped even trying. I've brought it up so many times- in sadness, in anger, in frustration, in flirtatious persuasion -that he usually gets angry &defensive and we end up frustrated and no sex.
We got engaged 2 months ago (he proposed) and it just seems bazaar to me that he does not want to have sex anymore. It felt like such a relief to find this site and article and know that I'm not the only woman struggling with this. It can be embarrassing to talk about because it IS so out of line generally accepted stereotypes of male/females, egthe man always wants to have sex but the woman is frigid. Anyway, still looking for the magic book with all the answers like a previous post.
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Hey so did you make it 2weeks? Did this work? I loved the advice you responded to. I've tried it all though...except taking sex off the table for more than a few days. So I'm curious if that worked for you. I'm not sure I have it in me to not even attempt to initiate sex for that long. My sex drive & desire for intimacy and being/feeling wanted always seems to take over before my fiancé feels inclined to have sex.
September 13, 2010 - 12:37amWe've been together for 3 years and the first 1 1/2 hrs we made love constantly and it was always amazing, passionate, seriously fireworks. When I moved in 1 1/2 yrs ago, stress at work caused a bit of a decline in the frequency in which we had sex but not the quality. Then it gradually declined even more. He began turning me down and responding very negatively to my flirtations and initiations for sex. His reasoning is always stress at work (which is true) and that it's not the most important thing to him in a relationship. Like many of the other contributors here, I've almost stopped even trying. I've brought it up so many times- in sadness, in anger, in frustration, in flirtatious persuasion -that he usually gets angry &defensive and we end up frustrated and no sex.
We got engaged 2 months ago (he proposed) and it just seems bazaar to me that he does not want to have sex anymore. It felt like such a relief to find this site and article and know that I'm not the only woman struggling with this. It can be embarrassing to talk about because it IS so out of line generally accepted stereotypes of male/females, egthe man always wants to have sex but the woman is frigid. Anyway, still looking for the magic book with all the answers like a previous post.
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