Hi,
Well my man and I are having the same problem, its been over a month since we had sex, we hardly touch at all! we have had this problem once before. It really and truly does kill your selfesteem as a woman. But one thing that I have learned through us going to counseling is this... THEY ARE NOT CHEATING AND THEY DO LOVE YOU AND IT IS NOT YOU!!! Well I am sure in some cases they dont love youor they have cheated but in most cases this is NOT true. In my situation, we were arguing alot for about a week and a half and during that time he didnt want to have sex with me, I mean we wernet even talking during that time. We since made a decision that we were commited and still in love. So we went and got the book called The Love Dare and have been working it day by day. There have been some had days but aso many really wonderful days..but still no sex..anyway I finially found out that since so myuch time has passed he feels scared and highly pressured to preform, even though I am no putting anypressure, men have there own pessures inside there heads.. anyway the suggestion we were given was this..Take SEX OFF the table for 2more weeks, do noteven allow it to be an option, meanwhile; spend 30 min per day touching eacthothers naked bodies in a loving, passioniate, non sexual way in order to bring back intamacy and trust and passion, the rest should follow. I hope this helps our situation as well as others on here. And LADIES... DONT give up on your man if you really love him, you made a commitment to love this person, better or worse. Good luck all!!!
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March 16, 2010 - 12:46amWell my man and I are having the same problem, its been over a month since we had sex, we hardly touch at all! we have had this problem once before. It really and truly does kill your selfesteem as a woman. But one thing that I have learned through us going to counseling is this... THEY ARE NOT CHEATING AND THEY DO LOVE YOU AND IT IS NOT YOU!!! Well I am sure in some cases they dont love youor they have cheated but in most cases this is NOT true. In my situation, we were arguing alot for about a week and a half and during that time he didnt want to have sex with me, I mean we wernet even talking during that time. We since made a decision that we were commited and still in love. So we went and got the book called The Love Dare and have been working it day by day. There have been some had days but aso many really wonderful days..but still no sex..anyway I finially found out that since so myuch time has passed he feels scared and highly pressured to preform, even though I am no putting anypressure, men have there own pessures inside there heads.. anyway the suggestion we were given was this..Take SEX OFF the table for 2more weeks, do noteven allow it to be an option, meanwhile; spend 30 min per day touching eacthothers naked bodies in a loving, passioniate, non sexual way in order to bring back intamacy and trust and passion, the rest should follow. I hope this helps our situation as well as others on here. And LADIES... DONT give up on your man if you really love him, you made a commitment to love this person, better or worse. Good luck all!!!
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