I'm so sorry you're experiencing this. And I'm sorry to hear that you are reconsidering your engagement, but I think that's smart. If this is your boyfriend's behavior before you are married, you can be sure it will continue after a marriage, and may even escalate. If you suspect extracurricular activity, I think you have to trust your intuition.
This sentence: "I am tired of crying and feeling undesirable" -- gives me a world of information. Yes, you are an attractive 33-year-old woman who does not need someone who makes you feel this way and who doesn't care if you do.
I know it's hard to throw in the towel; I am sure there are many things you do love about him. Would your boyfriend consider couples counseling before marriage?
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Anon,
I'm so sorry you're experiencing this. And I'm sorry to hear that you are reconsidering your engagement, but I think that's smart. If this is your boyfriend's behavior before you are married, you can be sure it will continue after a marriage, and may even escalate. If you suspect extracurricular activity, I think you have to trust your intuition.
This sentence: "I am tired of crying and feeling undesirable" -- gives me a world of information. Yes, you are an attractive 33-year-old woman who does not need someone who makes you feel this way and who doesn't care if you do.
I know it's hard to throw in the towel; I am sure there are many things you do love about him. Would your boyfriend consider couples counseling before marriage?
November 4, 2009 - 8:52amThis Comment
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