Sometimes we have to look at what is staring us in the face, at times we are to hard headed to see things that may hurt us. Some say its the age thing and in many cases that's a true statement, but in realty is how you allow others to treat you regardless of the age your in. In your situation i would do one of two things its either the guy or the girl or both would be out of my life, If you love this guy so much to lose yourself and your self worth then you will stay with him till your self worth is next to zero and eventually the brutal realty of waisted time.
With the patterns you described shows the path to take but sometimes not so obvious when your the one in the situation that outsiders can see clear as a day. If i was your friend i would tell you to go with your instinct trust in yourself, that what your gut is telling you is true about your friend and your boyfriend doing things behind your back. Now you have to decide if its something you want to be part of or not. When you decide that then decision will be made just takes alot of strength in doing.
However if your finding it hard to let him go and that's what it sounds like and want to give your relationship another try, I would end my friendship with my girlfriend as he should do same, if he is truly committed to you he will have no issues with making that happen, because he would want to put your mind at ease and understand what your going though, besides a true friend would never betray you like she has If he is cool with that decision maybe you could find it in your heart to try rebuilding your relationship with him if he is willing to do same. If not and he protests even after you explain to him reasons DUMP him he is not worth your time. Now i understand you have no proof and if your gut feeling is not enough you may be in need of physical proof invest into some cameras catch the acts get investigator involved i know that its extreme but i would rather know now then torture myself for months or years to come be the proactive one then you can decide what you need in your life to be happy and make informative decision. Good luck.
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Sometimes we have to look at what is staring us in the face, at times we are to hard headed to see things that may hurt us. Some say its the age thing and in many cases that's a true statement, but in realty is how you allow others to treat you regardless of the age your in. In your situation i would do one of two things its either the guy or the girl or both would be out of my life, If you love this guy so much to lose yourself and your self worth then you will stay with him till your self worth is next to zero and eventually the brutal realty of waisted time.
With the patterns you described shows the path to take but sometimes not so obvious when your the one in the situation that outsiders can see clear as a day. If i was your friend i would tell you to go with your instinct trust in yourself, that what your gut is telling you is true about your friend and your boyfriend doing things behind your back. Now you have to decide if its something you want to be part of or not. When you decide that then decision will be made just takes alot of strength in doing.
However if your finding it hard to let him go and that's what it sounds like and want to give your relationship another try, I would end my friendship with my girlfriend as he should do same, if he is truly committed to you he will have no issues with making that happen, because he would want to put your mind at ease and understand what your going though, besides a true friend would never betray you like she has If he is cool with that decision maybe you could find it in your heart to try rebuilding your relationship with him if he is willing to do same. If not and he protests even after you explain to him reasons DUMP him he is not worth your time. Now i understand you have no proof and if your gut feeling is not enough you may be in need of physical proof invest into some cameras catch the acts get investigator involved i know that its extreme but i would rather know now then torture myself for months or years to come be the proactive one then you can decide what you need in your life to be happy and make informative decision. Good luck.
August 29, 2009 - 11:48amThis Comment
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