Can anybody help me with my problem, me and my bf has been togethet for over a year and sex in the begining was okay every other day then as the months came it was 2 or 3 times a week now its becoming twice a month. The first thing I asked him was is he cheating on me? His obvious reply was no, then I asked if he was still attracted to me, he said he still finds me attractive, I've asked him then what's wrong? He replies were I'm pressuring him, or he has something on his mind that he can't concentrate on get into " the mood ". I had an ex hubby that was about 10 yrs older then me and he was all the time 2,3,4 even 5 times a day for the past 6 years, it was an amazing relationship its jus ended cuz we grew apart, but enough of that, my bf is only 6 yrs older then me the comparioson ( and I don't like comparing the ex man to the new man ) but my ex was soo fit , he ate healthy, he was financially okay, he has a great job, now as opposed to my new man, he has a beer belly, he hates his job, he eats unhealthy, he stays up late, when he was a teen into his mid 20's he's had his share of girls, meaning being promiscous, so he tells me that he's been with a lot of girls, sex to him is nothing. Wow when he said that, it really hurt deep down inside cuz it made me feel jus another phonne number in his book, but since me and him has gotten together his family and friends are shocked that we lasted this long. I'm only the second girl that met his parents, so I know with our " problems " that we r having I know he isn't cheating on me, he tells me he never let's girls who is dating even see his parents when they come around he hides the girls, he says he love me and the reason why he chose me out of the girls he's been with, I have self respect, I'm a very organized person, I'm honest, sincere, loyal etc. That made me feel really good inside of what he says about me, but why r we having so many sex issues , he says once he loses his gut he will be more energized and perform better, but from what I see he doesn't do anything to fix the issue. He has a lifetime gym membership that he pays a certain amount each year and maybe out of that year he goes 5 times. I've even tell him not to drink alcohol, I buy groceries for the house so he would stop eating out, I drag him to a casino so we could excercise by walking all over the building, I don't know what to do anymore cuz I'm really sick and tired of arguing and fighting, over sex, I think my mind is set on a specific repetition that I went through for the past 6 years with my ex and I pplay it upon my current bf do be exactly like him. But its hard to be with someone for that long have amazing sex when and whereever we want it, to being with someone who wants it when there in the mood. Can someone help me change my mind difference and realize that not all men are the same. I want my bf to want to have sex more then me, I feel like the man in the relationship and he's the women. I don't want to feel that way anymore, I love my boyfriend with all my heart, but I don't how strong I can be to stay. I just want to feel wanted by him.
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Can anybody help me with my problem, me and my bf has been togethet for over a year and sex in the begining was okay every other day then as the months came it was 2 or 3 times a week now its becoming twice a month. The first thing I asked him was is he cheating on me? His obvious reply was no, then I asked if he was still attracted to me, he said he still finds me attractive, I've asked him then what's wrong? He replies were I'm pressuring him, or he has something on his mind that he can't concentrate on get into " the mood ". I had an ex hubby that was about 10 yrs older then me and he was all the time 2,3,4 even 5 times a day for the past 6 years, it was an amazing relationship its jus ended cuz we grew apart, but enough of that, my bf is only 6 yrs older then me the comparioson ( and I don't like comparing the ex man to the new man ) but my ex was soo fit , he ate healthy, he was financially okay, he has a great job, now as opposed to my new man, he has a beer belly, he hates his job, he eats unhealthy, he stays up late, when he was a teen into his mid 20's he's had his share of girls, meaning being promiscous, so he tells me that he's been with a lot of girls, sex to him is nothing. Wow when he said that, it really hurt deep down inside cuz it made me feel jus another phonne number in his book, but since me and him has gotten together his family and friends are shocked that we lasted this long. I'm only the second girl that met his parents, so I know with our " problems " that we r having I know he isn't cheating on me, he tells me he never let's girls who is dating even see his parents when they come around he hides the girls, he says he love me and the reason why he chose me out of the girls he's been with, I have self respect, I'm a very organized person, I'm honest, sincere, loyal etc. That made me feel really good inside of what he says about me, but why r we having so many sex issues , he says once he loses his gut he will be more energized and perform better, but from what I see he doesn't do anything to fix the issue. He has a lifetime gym membership that he pays a certain amount each year and maybe out of that year he goes 5 times. I've even tell him not to drink alcohol, I buy groceries for the house so he would stop eating out, I drag him to a casino so we could excercise by walking all over the building, I don't know what to do anymore cuz I'm really sick and tired of arguing and fighting, over sex, I think my mind is set on a specific repetition that I went through for the past 6 years with my ex and I pplay it upon my current bf do be exactly like him. But its hard to be with someone for that long have amazing sex when and whereever we want it, to being with someone who wants it when there in the mood. Can someone help me change my mind difference and realize that not all men are the same. I want my bf to want to have sex more then me, I feel like the man in the relationship and he's the women. I don't want to feel that way anymore, I love my boyfriend with all my heart, but I don't how strong I can be to stay. I just want to feel wanted by him.
August 3, 2009 - 10:54amThis Comment
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