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I'm in the same situation with my bfriend. He doesnt want to have sex. He would rather me do oral on him. He doesnt do it for me and hasnt since we met three years ago. I have to ask for sex. I can walk naked in front of him and he doesn't even look at me. When we do have sex it is for maybe three minutes. He satisfies himself and turns over and goes to sleep. He loves to cuddle but doesn't ask for sex. If i say anything about him finding someone else he goes from talking calmly to irrate. He says he is tired of me accusing him. I don't accuse him I just ask if he has found someone else. He has said that men his age lose their sex drive. He is 38. I've never seen a man yet that has lost it. He spends alot of time "working on his boat" even when i am not at work, he goes to work on it. I don't think he is cheating but sometimes i wonder if he would rather be alone then with me. As for porn he hasnt watched it since we have been together because i don't like porn. He told me today he misses it alot but since i don't like it he won't watch it. He threw them all away last year. He said once that it is visual with porn. I believe if you can't have sex with the person you're with without it then somthing is wrong with the relationship. I am 7 years older than him. Sometimes i wonder if he doesn't want to be with me and is afraid to tell me. He has told me three times to move in an arguement we've had in the past. I live with him, he won't let me decorate with my things. It is HIS house not mine. As for marriage he has said he isn't getting married agin knowing I want to someday. I don't know if I should just move out and go bck to my house or just ride it out. Things aren't getting any better sexually, we have fun together here at home but we dont go out in public at all together. I work evenings and he works days but when i am home we don't do anything out of the house. He always says i need to firm up my gut, I had four kids and the oldest is 18. I feel if he loves me he shouldnt worry about my gut. He in his past likes little woman. I am only 112 lbs and 5'3. What is wrong with me????
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I'm in the same situation with my bfriend. He doesnt want to have sex. He would rather me do oral on him. He doesnt do it for me and hasnt since we met three years ago. I have to ask for sex. I can walk naked in front of him and he doesn't even look at me. When we do have sex it is for maybe three minutes. He satisfies himself and turns over and goes to sleep. He loves to cuddle but doesn't ask for sex. If i say anything about him finding someone else he goes from talking calmly to irrate. He says he is tired of me accusing him. I don't accuse him I just ask if he has found someone else. He has said that men his age lose their sex drive. He is 38. I've never seen a man yet that has lost it. He spends alot of time "working on his boat" even when i am not at work, he goes to work on it. I don't think he is cheating but sometimes i wonder if he would rather be alone then with me. As for porn he hasnt watched it since we have been together because i don't like porn. He told me today he misses it alot but since i don't like it he won't watch it. He threw them all away last year. He said once that it is visual with porn. I believe if you can't have sex with the person you're with without it then somthing is wrong with the relationship. I am 7 years older than him. Sometimes i wonder if he doesn't want to be with me and is afraid to tell me. He has told me three times to move in an arguement we've had in the past. I live with him, he won't let me decorate with my things. It is HIS house not mine. As for marriage he has said he isn't getting married agin knowing I want to someday. I don't know if I should just move out and go bck to my house or just ride it out. Things aren't getting any better sexually, we have fun together here at home but we dont go out in public at all together. I work evenings and he works days but when i am home we don't do anything out of the house. He always says i need to firm up my gut, I had four kids and the oldest is 18. I feel if he loves me he shouldnt worry about my gut. He in his past likes little woman. I am only 112 lbs and 5'3. What is wrong with me????
July 26, 2009 - 8:35amThis Comment
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