First off, I feel for you. Your feelings of sadness and rage strikes a chord with me as I know it does with so many other women in our posiion are who are reading this. I think all of us women in this bind feel helpless because it's like our hands are tied! Well it is...It's a life of quiet desperation. Our guys loves us and tells us they love us and everything seem to be fine except for this oh this one little HUGE problem.
People tell you it's not normal, that's what they tell me also...pshaw!!! Don't believe them. What is normal anyway? I have a hunch this problem is much more prevalent. A lot of women are not talking about it because of shame. They feel embarrassed, think it's somehow their fault, etc. If us couples who are getting along fine with our partner, wife, fiances are having trouble in the bedroom, what more are the couples who are not getting along outside of the bedroom? Pshaw! It's not normal. Well maybe it isn't but it sure isn't rare either. This is tough to be in your position...I don't know. Maybe hold a discussion with him to let him know how important it is for you to have a sexual relationship especially if you are thinking of getting married eventually (of course without letting on you know about the proposal). I think it's important enough to discuss before marriage. It could be a deal breaker for you.
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First off, I feel for you. Your feelings of sadness and rage strikes a chord with me as I know it does with so many other women in our posiion are who are reading this. I think all of us women in this bind feel helpless because it's like our hands are tied! Well it is...It's a life of quiet desperation. Our guys loves us and tells us they love us and everything seem to be fine except for this oh this one little HUGE problem.
July 24, 2009 - 9:53pmPeople tell you it's not normal, that's what they tell me also...pshaw!!! Don't believe them. What is normal anyway? I have a hunch this problem is much more prevalent. A lot of women are not talking about it because of shame. They feel embarrassed, think it's somehow their fault, etc. If us couples who are getting along fine with our partner, wife, fiances are having trouble in the bedroom, what more are the couples who are not getting along outside of the bedroom? Pshaw! It's not normal. Well maybe it isn't but it sure isn't rare either. This is tough to be in your position...I don't know. Maybe hold a discussion with him to let him know how important it is for you to have a sexual relationship especially if you are thinking of getting married eventually (of course without letting on you know about the proposal). I think it's important enough to discuss before marriage. It could be a deal breaker for you.
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