Ahh! One thing I have to say right now is 9 times out of 10 - SEXY LINGERIE WILL NOT HELP YOU!
I am saying this as I too am in the same situation, and the last thing you should do is ANYTHING that will knock your confidence further than feeling undesirable already has.
I made the epic mistake of trying to "spice things up" when things were looking bad and I can tell you this- there is nothing so soul destroying as standing in a corset body, thong and suspenders (sexy but not trashy- my favourite outfit) and seeing the man you love look a combination of indifferent and frightened.
I am 20 years old and I'm not boasting but I have a great body. I should never EVER have to feel like that again.
I love my man and I'm sticking with him. I love sex and there's nothing I want more than to feel as sexually powerful as I did when I was 16 and he was 18, picking me up from school just to have sex in my parent's house (any room) then taking me back for afternoon lessons.
But look at it this way, you may feel unattractive and undesirable because of this, but part of that is your fault. Look in the mirror and love yourself, use a vibrator, and wait it out. But if his selfishness in bed is the only thing wrong with your relationship, and doesn't translate to selfishness outside the bedroom, you're a very lucky person, and you should never forget to remind him you feel that way. And with any luck, the confident, self appreciative, and ego boosting new you might just flick that switch inside his head!
Here's hoping, and good luck everyone! :)
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Ahh! One thing I have to say right now is 9 times out of 10 - SEXY LINGERIE WILL NOT HELP YOU!
July 24, 2009 - 5:22amI am saying this as I too am in the same situation, and the last thing you should do is ANYTHING that will knock your confidence further than feeling undesirable already has.
I made the epic mistake of trying to "spice things up" when things were looking bad and I can tell you this- there is nothing so soul destroying as standing in a corset body, thong and suspenders (sexy but not trashy- my favourite outfit) and seeing the man you love look a combination of indifferent and frightened.
I am 20 years old and I'm not boasting but I have a great body. I should never EVER have to feel like that again.
I love my man and I'm sticking with him. I love sex and there's nothing I want more than to feel as sexually powerful as I did when I was 16 and he was 18, picking me up from school just to have sex in my parent's house (any room) then taking me back for afternoon lessons.
But look at it this way, you may feel unattractive and undesirable because of this, but part of that is your fault. Look in the mirror and love yourself, use a vibrator, and wait it out. But if his selfishness in bed is the only thing wrong with your relationship, and doesn't translate to selfishness outside the bedroom, you're a very lucky person, and you should never forget to remind him you feel that way. And with any luck, the confident, self appreciative, and ego boosting new you might just flick that switch inside his head!
Here's hoping, and good luck everyone! :)
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