I think after reading all of these posts... there is one piece of advice I have yet to hear. If it was here and I missed it, then I apologize in advance!
Girls/Ladies/Women... you have got to listen to your inner voice. Don't dismiss your intuition and/or your gut instinct. It always tells you what you need to know, but if you are not wanting to hear that answer or believe that, then you will probably just brush it aside. 9 times out of 10, you will end up saying..."I knew it"!
A woman's intuition (and YES it exists for us all, although some stronger than others) is her most powerful ally! The reason? It is meant to prepare you, to protect you and enlighten you!!
I am lucky at my age (mid 30's) to have someone I am highly sexually compatible with and for that I count my lucky stars... but before you roll your eyes... you have no idea how LONG I had to wait for him to come around!!
I have had MANY of these same experiences with love interests in the past on my journey to my husband... and never one time was there a medical reason for it. Not to dismiss that possibility at all, but I think that is usually a SMALL percentage! It doesn't mean he is cheating or talking to someone from the past, although in my experiences it usually was the reason. Was it because of me? NO! I had to learn that if they were doing that or engaging in that ~ it had everything to do with them! Commitment phobe, adreneline junkie (when the relationship started getting routine), low self esteem on their part (needing to know women wanted them no matter what you did)... a dozen reasons. It always made me feel bad but as I got WISER I knew that maybe... I was catching a person who was distructive no matter what or they were hurt and paying back the pain on me... unfortunate timing!
Sometimes it is that the "chase" is over... as if we can run forever, please!
Sometimes it was that they had intimacy issues and getting to close literally freaked them out.
Why do I know it wasn't me? Because each and EVERY screw up that I dated... always came back and told me they didn't know what they had when they hadn't. They were RIGHT!
Listen to your gut instincts ladies and act accordingly. Really listen! If it is worth saving and working through, you will know it. Most of the time it needs to be chalked up as ~ a good run ~ but a bad choice.
I am worth being loved and wanted and made to feel wanted. SO ARE YOU!
Don't question yourself... if they love you, they can't help but want you and if they aren't fulfilling their portion of the sexual part of the relationship... they will be overwhelmed with guilt for the "Fear" of your misinterpreting it and they WILL bring it up!
That is my best advice... long hard lessons and now I hope that this MIGHT get you thinking!
Remember, NO ONE CAN LOOK AFTER YOUR OWN WELL BEING AND HAPPINESS AS WELL AS YOU CAN!!
He's out there ladies... go find the man that your mother's (and dad's) always hoped you would get!!!
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I think after reading all of these posts... there is one piece of advice I have yet to hear. If it was here and I missed it, then I apologize in advance!
July 16, 2009 - 11:45pmGirls/Ladies/Women... you have got to listen to your inner voice. Don't dismiss your intuition and/or your gut instinct. It always tells you what you need to know, but if you are not wanting to hear that answer or believe that, then you will probably just brush it aside. 9 times out of 10, you will end up saying..."I knew it"!
A woman's intuition (and YES it exists for us all, although some stronger than others) is her most powerful ally! The reason? It is meant to prepare you, to protect you and enlighten you!!
I am lucky at my age (mid 30's) to have someone I am highly sexually compatible with and for that I count my lucky stars... but before you roll your eyes... you have no idea how LONG I had to wait for him to come around!!
I have had MANY of these same experiences with love interests in the past on my journey to my husband... and never one time was there a medical reason for it. Not to dismiss that possibility at all, but I think that is usually a SMALL percentage! It doesn't mean he is cheating or talking to someone from the past, although in my experiences it usually was the reason. Was it because of me? NO! I had to learn that if they were doing that or engaging in that ~ it had everything to do with them! Commitment phobe, adreneline junkie (when the relationship started getting routine), low self esteem on their part (needing to know women wanted them no matter what you did)... a dozen reasons. It always made me feel bad but as I got WISER I knew that maybe... I was catching a person who was distructive no matter what or they were hurt and paying back the pain on me... unfortunate timing!
Sometimes it is that the "chase" is over... as if we can run forever, please!
Sometimes it was that they had intimacy issues and getting to close literally freaked them out.
Why do I know it wasn't me? Because each and EVERY screw up that I dated... always came back and told me they didn't know what they had when they hadn't. They were RIGHT!
Listen to your gut instincts ladies and act accordingly. Really listen! If it is worth saving and working through, you will know it. Most of the time it needs to be chalked up as ~ a good run ~ but a bad choice.
I am worth being loved and wanted and made to feel wanted. SO ARE YOU!
Don't question yourself... if they love you, they can't help but want you and if they aren't fulfilling their portion of the sexual part of the relationship... they will be overwhelmed with guilt for the "Fear" of your misinterpreting it and they WILL bring it up!
That is my best advice... long hard lessons and now I hope that this MIGHT get you thinking!
Remember, NO ONE CAN LOOK AFTER YOUR OWN WELL BEING AND HAPPINESS AS WELL AS YOU CAN!!
He's out there ladies... go find the man that your mother's (and dad's) always hoped you would get!!!
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