Thank you for all the posts and the original question. I am in a long distance relationship. VERY LONG. We live in different countries. When we see each other, he is not interested in sex. Yet he loves holding my hand, wants to go everywhere with me, have me sleep over [no touching except an arm around me sometimes], go out to eat, swimming, movies, work together, everything. But no kissing[making out] pecks are ok, but no foreplay or sex. And he gets REALLY REALLY offended if I try to kiss him. I am ultra sexual female, so this is killing me. When he is at home, we just talk on the phone and do email. its all we have. he wont even do phone sex when i have suggested it. I even said - let me go! i wont even be mad! but he says he wants me and only me - that he finds me attractive and cares about me so much. he just cant combine love and sex. and just doesnt want to screw around with me. and then he also says he has severe chemical depression and is not himself. this is the worst visit ever. i had to beg him crying that he would kiss me or something. he just said i am not being patient, and not understanding that he cant. please help. its especially hard when he turns it back around on me, like im some sort of sexual crazy addict or something. he even said i was acting like a "pig" wanting sex all the time when he doesnt want it at all.
i tried to tell him that it is killing me because i miss him so much, and there are all these rules that i cant touch him. but he has lotions and tissues out, and i know he masturbates. i know he USED to look at ALOT of porn. he said he doesnt anymore. he swears up and down there has never been anyone else. ugh.
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Thank you for all the posts and the original question. I am in a long distance relationship. VERY LONG. We live in different countries. When we see each other, he is not interested in sex. Yet he loves holding my hand, wants to go everywhere with me, have me sleep over [no touching except an arm around me sometimes], go out to eat, swimming, movies, work together, everything. But no kissing[making out] pecks are ok, but no foreplay or sex. And he gets REALLY REALLY offended if I try to kiss him. I am ultra sexual female, so this is killing me. When he is at home, we just talk on the phone and do email. its all we have. he wont even do phone sex when i have suggested it. I even said - let me go! i wont even be mad! but he says he wants me and only me - that he finds me attractive and cares about me so much. he just cant combine love and sex. and just doesnt want to screw around with me. and then he also says he has severe chemical depression and is not himself. this is the worst visit ever. i had to beg him crying that he would kiss me or something. he just said i am not being patient, and not understanding that he cant. please help. its especially hard when he turns it back around on me, like im some sort of sexual crazy addict or something. he even said i was acting like a "pig" wanting sex all the time when he doesnt want it at all.
i tried to tell him that it is killing me because i miss him so much, and there are all these rules that i cant touch him. but he has lotions and tissues out, and i know he masturbates. i know he USED to look at ALOT of porn. he said he doesnt anymore. he swears up and down there has never been anyone else. ugh.
July 12, 2009 - 9:47pmThis Comment
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