I'm a guy - I came looking for information because I don't want to have sex with my girlfriend. -Lately. I am trying to understand it better myself.
I have never cheated. I have not, would not, and neither am I interested in being with anyone else. Although I am usually slow to warm up to physical relationships, when I am in one, I have a very high sex drive. This "no sex vibe" spooks me out, even though I know the reasons why... My girlfriend is becoming unsettled now. I know I still love sex. We have been doing "other stuff", but not actual sex.
I know exactly the reason I feel this way towards her, and I have felt similar feelings towards past Ex-GFs. I know that if my girlfriend is insulting, boldly lying, or disloyal -it kills the trust. Which makes the sex feel hypocritical for a while. Another factor in the past, GF refusing to perform certain sexual acts or have sex in certain positions. This becomes a huge turn off over the months.
Probably the biggest reasons I will avoid having sex, is if the girl I am involved with wants to have a baby. I avoided sex for a 6-month relationship based mainly on that reason alone. This tends to scream out "I never want to marry you!" so most men won't explain this reasoning to you. And, many guys are secretly worried you will attempt to get pregnant on purpose and against our wishes.
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I'm a guy - I came looking for information because I don't want to have sex with my girlfriend. -Lately. I am trying to understand it better myself.
I have never cheated. I have not, would not, and neither am I interested in being with anyone else. Although I am usually slow to warm up to physical relationships, when I am in one, I have a very high sex drive. This "no sex vibe" spooks me out, even though I know the reasons why... My girlfriend is becoming unsettled now. I know I still love sex. We have been doing "other stuff", but not actual sex.
I know exactly the reason I feel this way towards her, and I have felt similar feelings towards past Ex-GFs. I know that if my girlfriend is insulting, boldly lying, or disloyal -it kills the trust. Which makes the sex feel hypocritical for a while. Another factor in the past, GF refusing to perform certain sexual acts or have sex in certain positions. This becomes a huge turn off over the months.
Probably the biggest reasons I will avoid having sex, is if the girl I am involved with wants to have a baby. I avoided sex for a 6-month relationship based mainly on that reason alone. This tends to scream out "I never want to marry you!" so most men won't explain this reasoning to you. And, many guys are secretly worried you will attempt to get pregnant on purpose and against our wishes.
July 8, 2009 - 3:19amThis Comment
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