Ok I am glad I found this site because I have been having the exact same problem too. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 4 years. We don't have sex like we used to in the beginning of our relationship but we were at least sex 2 times a week, now we haven't had sex for over a month. The last time we had sex was before he went on vacation and while he was on vacation we were texting each other saying how much we missed each other and how we couldn't wait to have sex. When he got back we did oral and that was it. Since then that is all we have done is oral and that's at least once to twice a week. We both have just graduated from college and he had to move back home. I may end up back home very soon and me moving and talking about apartment stuff has stressed us both out. We also have both started new jobs so I know that stresses him out too. Another thing I believe stresses him out is talking about moving in together and me possibly just moving closer to him. In the past we have had moments in our relationship where he has said our relationship is just about sex. I've never believed that and I know he couldn't either because there has been so much we do besides sex.
Recently after fulling around but no sex happened after I asked him what was going on. He said he just hasn't felt like it and his biggest excuse was that he is uncomfortable with the way I take my birth control and he is afraid of getting me pregnant but he wears a condom too and then he is uncomfortable with the fact we are always at his parents house and we aren't even allowed to sleep in the same bed when I stay over. I asked him again today and he just keeps saying he hasn't felt like it.
I don't want to worry about because everything else has been great and we are having fun. I just keep thinking he is stressed about all this other stuff going on. I just can't believe though while he was gone all that stuff we talked about related to sex and it just never happened. I also hope it wouldn't be an attraction issue because we still do sexual things just not intercourse. I don't know I would appreciate some advice. I do want to talk to him again but I don't want him to think all I care about is sex. Thanks!
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Ok I am glad I found this site because I have been having the exact same problem too. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 4 years. We don't have sex like we used to in the beginning of our relationship but we were at least sex 2 times a week, now we haven't had sex for over a month. The last time we had sex was before he went on vacation and while he was on vacation we were texting each other saying how much we missed each other and how we couldn't wait to have sex. When he got back we did oral and that was it. Since then that is all we have done is oral and that's at least once to twice a week. We both have just graduated from college and he had to move back home. I may end up back home very soon and me moving and talking about apartment stuff has stressed us both out. We also have both started new jobs so I know that stresses him out too. Another thing I believe stresses him out is talking about moving in together and me possibly just moving closer to him. In the past we have had moments in our relationship where he has said our relationship is just about sex. I've never believed that and I know he couldn't either because there has been so much we do besides sex.
Recently after fulling around but no sex happened after I asked him what was going on. He said he just hasn't felt like it and his biggest excuse was that he is uncomfortable with the way I take my birth control and he is afraid of getting me pregnant but he wears a condom too and then he is uncomfortable with the fact we are always at his parents house and we aren't even allowed to sleep in the same bed when I stay over. I asked him again today and he just keeps saying he hasn't felt like it.
I don't want to worry about because everything else has been great and we are having fun. I just keep thinking he is stressed about all this other stuff going on. I just can't believe though while he was gone all that stuff we talked about related to sex and it just never happened. I also hope it wouldn't be an attraction issue because we still do sexual things just not intercourse. I don't know I would appreciate some advice. I do want to talk to him again but I don't want him to think all I care about is sex. Thanks!
Tiffany B
July 2, 2009 - 9:22pmThis Comment
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