Hi Alison: Thanks for the response. Other than the sexual stuff, I thought it was a very healthy relationship- great talks, same likes and dislikes, on the phone constantly and were together from Fri-Mon every wknd. I was completely happy in every other way.
I've never told him he was killing my esteem and I wouldn't know how to manipulate him if I could. I initially told him I felt unwanted whereupon he said he'd call the doctor. I waited it out, he never made the call. Then the excuses started, he was tired, he was stressed over work, etc. He made no effort whatsoever. I know he masturbates daily not only b/c he tells me, but because I found lubricating gel (that we never used) under his coffee table adjacent to the porn movies and girly mags. He started the medicine about a month or so after we started dating. I have talked to him in a nice way about it and said the most important thing is for you to be healthy, etc. But come on! One phone call to the md and it could have been solved months ago if he wanted to. I honestly was willing to wait it out till the appt. next month and then we broke up one day after I posted the original message. I found out he has been corresponding with an ex girlfriend from 13 years who lives across the country telling her he misses her and what they had, etc. and when I confronted him he didn't deny it. I truly believe it's easier for him to masturbate while on Facebook with this girl who is married with 3 children, than it is to be with me. No pressure, no one to answer to.
You are very perceptive to pick up on the emotionally harmful words. His most recent comment was that he was sorry if he didn't "stuff" me enough. He called me perverted about the gel then an hour or so later he's on porn websites showing me some of the outrageous sex acts.
I guess I've pretty much answered my own question. It's just a really hard thing to understand why he preferred his hand over me?
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Hi Alison: Thanks for the response. Other than the sexual stuff, I thought it was a very healthy relationship- great talks, same likes and dislikes, on the phone constantly and were together from Fri-Mon every wknd. I was completely happy in every other way.
I've never told him he was killing my esteem and I wouldn't know how to manipulate him if I could. I initially told him I felt unwanted whereupon he said he'd call the doctor. I waited it out, he never made the call. Then the excuses started, he was tired, he was stressed over work, etc. He made no effort whatsoever. I know he masturbates daily not only b/c he tells me, but because I found lubricating gel (that we never used) under his coffee table adjacent to the porn movies and girly mags. He started the medicine about a month or so after we started dating. I have talked to him in a nice way about it and said the most important thing is for you to be healthy, etc. But come on! One phone call to the md and it could have been solved months ago if he wanted to. I honestly was willing to wait it out till the appt. next month and then we broke up one day after I posted the original message. I found out he has been corresponding with an ex girlfriend from 13 years who lives across the country telling her he misses her and what they had, etc. and when I confronted him he didn't deny it. I truly believe it's easier for him to masturbate while on Facebook with this girl who is married with 3 children, than it is to be with me. No pressure, no one to answer to.
You are very perceptive to pick up on the emotionally harmful words. His most recent comment was that he was sorry if he didn't "stuff" me enough. He called me perverted about the gel then an hour or so later he's on porn websites showing me some of the outrageous sex acts.
I guess I've pretty much answered my own question. It's just a really hard thing to understand why he preferred his hand over me?
June 18, 2009 - 4:30pmThis Comment
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