I have a quite similar problem as miss kitty. But much moooore complicated. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 5 years, I was just 18 an he was 21 when we started going out with each other. After about three years from the beginning of our relationship I started to feel less loved and felt less care from him. He was quite nervous and lied to me many times. Our sexual life also became worse. Now I know it was my fault because I just wanted to be with him all the time and he felt too "tied up". But I did something very foolish, something that I will regret till the end of my life. I cheated on him... He found it out and split up for a week. Then he came back to me, because I apologized and promised not to do it again, but he told me it would never be as before. At that time, he was acting really badly to me, was calling me a bitch and was doing all the worst things that you can imagine to destroy my psychic. But I was decided to endure still remembering what I did to him. To be brief, then we split up 2 more times in past two years and at that time he was dating 2 girls for about a month. We are back together now (I've never had any problems with forgiving him), but it hurt sooo much watching them walking around together in our small town.... Moreover, our present sexual life is very poor (about once a month) and, as my self confidence was seriously hurt, it's becoming really frustraiting to me.... My boyfriend maintains that it is still because I hurt him so much (two years ago!) and he also says that he finds me attractive, but.....etc....but I also know that he masturbates watching porn.....and then it hurts even more. In other ways, our relationship is unbelievably restored, he is being very nice to me as he used to when we started going out with each other.... everything is just fine except one thing......
I have made an arrangement at the local therapist, do you think it will be any help???
What shall I do??? Do you think he is true to me??? Could he still be hurt after such a long time??? I must say that the most wonderful sex in the past two years we had, when he was dating the other girl.... What does it mean???
Dear Miss kitty, what about your present sexual life???
Thank you for any ideas.....I hope I didnt scare you with my unbelievable story.....:D
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I have a quite similar problem as miss kitty. But much moooore complicated. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 5 years, I was just 18 an he was 21 when we started going out with each other. After about three years from the beginning of our relationship I started to feel less loved and felt less care from him. He was quite nervous and lied to me many times. Our sexual life also became worse. Now I know it was my fault because I just wanted to be with him all the time and he felt too "tied up". But I did something very foolish, something that I will regret till the end of my life. I cheated on him... He found it out and split up for a week. Then he came back to me, because I apologized and promised not to do it again, but he told me it would never be as before. At that time, he was acting really badly to me, was calling me a bitch and was doing all the worst things that you can imagine to destroy my psychic. But I was decided to endure still remembering what I did to him. To be brief, then we split up 2 more times in past two years and at that time he was dating 2 girls for about a month. We are back together now (I've never had any problems with forgiving him), but it hurt sooo much watching them walking around together in our small town.... Moreover, our present sexual life is very poor (about once a month) and, as my self confidence was seriously hurt, it's becoming really frustraiting to me.... My boyfriend maintains that it is still because I hurt him so much (two years ago!) and he also says that he finds me attractive, but.....etc....but I also know that he masturbates watching porn.....and then it hurts even more. In other ways, our relationship is unbelievably restored, he is being very nice to me as he used to when we started going out with each other.... everything is just fine except one thing......
I have made an arrangement at the local therapist, do you think it will be any help???
What shall I do??? Do you think he is true to me??? Could he still be hurt after such a long time??? I must say that the most wonderful sex in the past two years we had, when he was dating the other girl.... What does it mean???
Dear Miss kitty, what about your present sexual life???
Thank you for any ideas.....I hope I didnt scare you with my unbelievable story.....:D
Ida
June 18, 2009 - 3:04pmThis Comment
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