I sit at my desk and am SO glad that other people are in a similar position to me. (I knew that it couldnt just be me on my own who was going through it so google search it was and here i am)
My situation:
Ive been with my partner for just over two years, the first year of our relationship was spent seeing eachother once a week or on the weekends every two weeks as I was at university, it was heartbreaking to go without seing him for what seemed forever(especially in the honeymoon period where u normally see them all the time)...but we made it through and now live bk at home together.
Hes never been the type to openly talk about sex, or if anything related is on Tv he cringes(but Ive seen messages he has sent to his mates on fb etc and it's all male bravado about"her melons" or.. general sexual inuendo which he never was the sort to say around me or when we first met)
Maybe its just a male front he puts on with his male friends, and he has got a flirty nature around women, and older women at his work clearly swoon at him ! but I know thers no thret there.
Its just really getting to me, I love sex,i could do it day in day out, so i feel like im the guy and hes the girl! I asked him if it was me, and he said the usual NO, but anymore questions than that and he gets irritated and angry etc.
I tell him that having sex with him makes me happy, and surly he likes me when im happy so he shuld do it more often! And that its what makes a relationship a relationship/loving etc not just basically friends who have a laugh and live together. He seemd to grasp that fact and then we will have a bout of sex for the weekend or something...but it just dries up again.
Now its been ten days(when I dressed up when he got home) and since then...nothing.
To be fair, he has been made redundant recently at his job, but has had many interviews and infact today he had one that he was positive about, so this may be depressing him.. and we will have to move out of the flat in July too.
BUT.. I also have lost my job, and have to leave in two weeks.. but I STILL WANT sex! if anything more so because I seek his comfort in times of sadness, I seek closeness...he just feels like a guy i live with who isnt that bothered anymore, which makes ME less bothered about making effort for fear of hearing the rejection.
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I sit at my desk and am SO glad that other people are in a similar position to me. (I knew that it couldnt just be me on my own who was going through it so google search it was and here i am)
My situation:
Ive been with my partner for just over two years, the first year of our relationship was spent seeing eachother once a week or on the weekends every two weeks as I was at university, it was heartbreaking to go without seing him for what seemed forever(especially in the honeymoon period where u normally see them all the time)...but we made it through and now live bk at home together.
Hes never been the type to openly talk about sex, or if anything related is on Tv he cringes(but Ive seen messages he has sent to his mates on fb etc and it's all male bravado about"her melons" or.. general sexual inuendo which he never was the sort to say around me or when we first met)
Maybe its just a male front he puts on with his male friends, and he has got a flirty nature around women, and older women at his work clearly swoon at him ! but I know thers no thret there.
Its just really getting to me, I love sex,i could do it day in day out, so i feel like im the guy and hes the girl! I asked him if it was me, and he said the usual NO, but anymore questions than that and he gets irritated and angry etc.
I tell him that having sex with him makes me happy, and surly he likes me when im happy so he shuld do it more often! And that its what makes a relationship a relationship/loving etc not just basically friends who have a laugh and live together. He seemd to grasp that fact and then we will have a bout of sex for the weekend or something...but it just dries up again.
Now its been ten days(when I dressed up when he got home) and since then...nothing.
To be fair, he has been made redundant recently at his job, but has had many interviews and infact today he had one that he was positive about, so this may be depressing him.. and we will have to move out of the flat in July too.
BUT.. I also have lost my job, and have to leave in two weeks.. but I STILL WANT sex! if anything more so because I seek his comfort in times of sadness, I seek closeness...he just feels like a guy i live with who isnt that bothered anymore, which makes ME less bothered about making effort for fear of hearing the rejection.
hohum....what to do.
June 3, 2009 - 3:35amAdvice me up.
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