I am in a simialar situation. And I like you have a very open relationship with my boyfriend, we have been together a little over a year and just like all relationships when we first got together we where having sex all the time. Now not so much. I cant say that it has been over a month at a time but up to a month at times.
So we got to talking and at that time i worked from home (which i still do) and he was on a lay off. We were spending alot of time together and neither of us were really going and doing anything with out the other. We decided that we would start taking "personal" time. Even if it was just going and running to the store and doing our house hold shopping with out the other or guys night out and girls night out. This gave us more to talk about and keep eachother interested in conversations and it made us miss eachother and see what we have to come home to.
Since we made this small change things have improved drastically. Now i am not saying that things are perfect or anything we are after all a normal couple. But it has made a huge impact.
I guess basically what i am saying is that it may be possible that even he does not realize that he is kind of smoothered in the relationship. Try maybe staying home for a few breaks, going out with your girlfriends every once in a while or just simply going and taking care of your personal things and let him have some time on the couch with the tv so he has some alone time. Giving him time to miss you and to see what he has could make all the difference in the world.
I am glad that the talk you had went well. And i wish you the best in your relationship.
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Dear Ms. Kitty~
I am in a simialar situation. And I like you have a very open relationship with my boyfriend, we have been together a little over a year and just like all relationships when we first got together we where having sex all the time. Now not so much. I cant say that it has been over a month at a time but up to a month at times.
So we got to talking and at that time i worked from home (which i still do) and he was on a lay off. We were spending alot of time together and neither of us were really going and doing anything with out the other. We decided that we would start taking "personal" time. Even if it was just going and running to the store and doing our house hold shopping with out the other or guys night out and girls night out. This gave us more to talk about and keep eachother interested in conversations and it made us miss eachother and see what we have to come home to.
Since we made this small change things have improved drastically. Now i am not saying that things are perfect or anything we are after all a normal couple. But it has made a huge impact.
I guess basically what i am saying is that it may be possible that even he does not realize that he is kind of smoothered in the relationship. Try maybe staying home for a few breaks, going out with your girlfriends every once in a while or just simply going and taking care of your personal things and let him have some time on the couch with the tv so he has some alone time. Giving him time to miss you and to see what he has could make all the difference in the world.
I am glad that the talk you had went well. And i wish you the best in your relationship.
~tine
June 2, 2009 - 5:06pmThis Comment
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