nothing diffrent in his diet, and we dont really excersize we just bring the dogs for walks. No medication what so ever. He says he's sleeping well at night and i'm pretty sure he's not interested in anyone else. as we have a very open relationship and he would tell me because he knows that overall i want him to be happy as he feels twoards me as well. and no i've realized a while back that it's not my fault. He says he's tired from work sometimes but even on his days off he doesn't feel up to it. and i wouldn't guilt trip him over sex, it's not worth the argument. i have talked to him about it and he doesn't really know what it is either. And i do want to know what he wants but it feels like it's been so long that i feel weird initiating it now, like im usually payful and touchy but since it's been 2 months i just don't really feel like getting the " awwh babe not tonight" again. i don't get mad, but it frustrates me because i know it's not me but i can't help but think for a second that he's not interested in me sexually anymore and i've asked him about that but he says that he still finds me attractive. so it's kind of a confusing situation. He's not uncomfortable talking to me abotu sex, we used to talk about it all the time. (by used to i mean when we were still having sex.) It's been 2 months and he knows that i want to and it's causing problems now becase deep down inside he's worried im going to cheat on him because it's been that long. and i obviously wouldn't do that to him i would never hurt him. and i would never miss sex enough to cheat on him. i love him to peices and i know how it feels to be cheated on. im not even capable of it. i was a virgin when i first got with him because i was waiting for the right guy to come along and im convinced it's him. and even if i don't end up finding a reason and a solution for this it's not worth throwing our relationship away.and i think it might just be a phase, because w were having sex so often before that maybe he just wants to take a break from it. But i'm still hoping someone can lead me through this step by step so i can get some help on figuring out whats going on. Any ideas on maybe how to get it going now? and im goign to discuss it againg with him tonight, im going over to help him paint one of the rooms in his house so it's a perfect time to talk about it. i'll let you girls know how it goes and any new information that might be helpful for this, and also helpful to all the other women who are going through the same because i know how frustrating it can be because it becomes more than just sex after a while and starts to cause other problems.
Thank you Diane and Alison! I Appreciate the help.
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nothing diffrent in his diet, and we dont really excersize we just bring the dogs for walks. No medication what so ever. He says he's sleeping well at night and i'm pretty sure he's not interested in anyone else. as we have a very open relationship and he would tell me because he knows that overall i want him to be happy as he feels twoards me as well. and no i've realized a while back that it's not my fault. He says he's tired from work sometimes but even on his days off he doesn't feel up to it. and i wouldn't guilt trip him over sex, it's not worth the argument. i have talked to him about it and he doesn't really know what it is either. And i do want to know what he wants but it feels like it's been so long that i feel weird initiating it now, like im usually payful and touchy but since it's been 2 months i just don't really feel like getting the " awwh babe not tonight" again. i don't get mad, but it frustrates me because i know it's not me but i can't help but think for a second that he's not interested in me sexually anymore and i've asked him about that but he says that he still finds me attractive. so it's kind of a confusing situation. He's not uncomfortable talking to me abotu sex, we used to talk about it all the time. (by used to i mean when we were still having sex.) It's been 2 months and he knows that i want to and it's causing problems now becase deep down inside he's worried im going to cheat on him because it's been that long. and i obviously wouldn't do that to him i would never hurt him. and i would never miss sex enough to cheat on him. i love him to peices and i know how it feels to be cheated on. im not even capable of it. i was a virgin when i first got with him because i was waiting for the right guy to come along and im convinced it's him. and even if i don't end up finding a reason and a solution for this it's not worth throwing our relationship away.and i think it might just be a phase, because w were having sex so often before that maybe he just wants to take a break from it. But i'm still hoping someone can lead me through this step by step so i can get some help on figuring out whats going on. Any ideas on maybe how to get it going now? and im goign to discuss it againg with him tonight, im going over to help him paint one of the rooms in his house so it's a perfect time to talk about it. i'll let you girls know how it goes and any new information that might be helpful for this, and also helpful to all the other women who are going through the same because i know how frustrating it can be because it becomes more than just sex after a while and starts to cause other problems.
Thank you Diane and Alison! I Appreciate the help.
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