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Miss Kitty,

First of all, I'm so glad you found EmpowHer. Thanks for your question.

If I could talk to your boyfriend, some of the first things I'd ask about are whether he's changed anything in the last few months.

-- Any specific changes in diet and/or nutrition?

-- Any changes (less or more) in the amount of exercise he's getting?

-- Any new medications he's taking, or vitamins or supplements?

-- Anything happening at work or school that is worrying him? I know you said that you don't think there's anything specific on his mind, but if this is a really busy time for him -- and if he's both working and attending school -- it might be a factor.

The hormone testosterone has everything to do with a man's sex drive, just like our hormones have so much to do with our own sex drive. Hormones fluctuate in both men and woman. And while it's normal to have much more sex at the beginning of a relationship than later, it does seem like a fairly drastic change in the last few months.

Has anything changed in the dynamic of your relationship? Meaning, is one of you more serious about the relationship than the other? Or someone's living arrangement has changed? Or someone's schedule has changed? Is he still sleeping well at night?

So often, what we think is medical or psychological has an actual base in our diet, our nutrition, our sleep, our work, our play, and our level of exercise. The first thing I'd ask is if any of those changed significantly recently.

Here's a question I hate to ask, but I will: Are you very sure that he still feels the same way about the relationship that he used to?

And about how old is he?

Please see if you can get back to us with some answers to these questions and we'll see if we can find anything that might help.

May 19, 2009 - 10:07am

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