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I have a similar problem. I've been with my boyfriends for almost a year now. It has been amazing, we love spending time with each other, he makes me feel really special and happy, we want to move in with each other, and it seems like he wants to spend the rest of his life with me... But then something really weird happened. About a week ago, we had a fallout about something, honestly I don't even know what caused it. I just said sorry for something and all of a sudden he stopped talking to me. Later that night we spoke via text and he told me that he doesn't know if he still wants to be with me. This really shocked me as just 2 days before that he told me how much he loved me and that I'll always be his. He told me that he still loved me. I did the very pathetic thing, and begged, I really wasn't prepared to give up someone so great, and I begged for him to give me a second chance. He did, and we're happy in love once more. I brought up how what happened the other day really scared me and how afraid I am of losing him, and he's been reassuring me that I won't lose him (I just want to add that he is bi-polar) . Anyhow, we haven't had sex for about a month, and it's been really bothering me as we used have sex a lot, we are really adventurous, so it's not like things were dull in the bedroom. I don't consider myself unattractive, and he tells me I'm really beautiful. Last night, for the first time in a month, we were getting frisky, and I was thinking that it was finally going to happen, but he started getting... flaccid... and I asked him what was wrong (he is 18 and still stays with his folks) and he told me he was nervous about his parents hearing, and I said I'd be quiet but he just said sorry and pulled his pants back up. I was lying there, feeling really rejected, scared, and I asked him if that was really the true reason, he said yes, and went to go do something, I started crying, and he came back, we cuddled, he asked me what was wrong and I explained that this was making me feel really really bad about myself, that I felt like I'm not good enough anymore, that I'm ugly and just boring. He told me then that that wasn't it, that he's been having a very low sex drive lately and he feels really unmanly about it, when I said I felt it was my fault he reassured me that it wasn't, he's not one to lie about this. But I still can't help thinking that it's me, I'm the first girl he's been with, and I've just been thinking.. maybe I should let him sleep with someone else.. maybe that will help, maybe he is bored of me... I don't know what to do, I've been researching a lot, but I'm really scared that I'm going to lose him, I'm scared that if we don't sort this out then what happened the other day is going to happen again...

October 7, 2013 - 3:45am


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