I have the same problem.. only me and my partner's sex life has withered down to around three times a year. I really can't bare it anymore, especially when he jokes about needing condoms, and I'm like well we don't bloody use them. I have put on about 2 stone and I am really self conscious, but whenever I try and bring it up like when he mentions condoms, he gets all arsey and so I can't talk to him about it. I know this may sound naive, but I am seriously starting to think he may be gay. He's gone into acting and he's not the manliest of men. Or he's cheating. But it's a little reassuring that I'm not the only one.