Hi,
I am having a similar problem. I am 23 my partner is 26 we have been together for 2 1/2 years. At the beggining of our relationship we had sex all the time in the last year and a half he has stopped wanting to he says he doesn't know why, we do it probs once a month sometimes once every two months. It causes arguments some times, I have recently been made redundent so I am at home at alot now and we regularly lyin, every morning i try to turn him on but he just gets up and leaves me there horney as hell pulling my hair out. I have always had a really high sex drive and he used to too. This is the longest relationship either of us have had ( I had a 1 1/2 year relationship in my late teens and his longest is 3months) He is an out of work actor and I know his lack of jobs makes him feel awful about himself I do think he may have a mild form of depression and he lost alot of his family over the past 8years including his mother. We live together and have pretty much since the beggining of our relationship, I know he is not cheating and never would, I have no problem with porn infact i used to enjoy it very much as did he but he went off that ages ago. He used to masterbate between 1 and 2 times aday when we first met for about 2 months but as we were having sex alot he stopped. We are very close and get on very well, he goes out with his mates maybe once every couple of months and we have mutual friends that we see often. I am a pretty brunette, 5ft 5 size 12, my weight has gone up and down over the past few years and I know it is noy because of that because last summer i lost loads of weight and was a size 8 and nothing changed then. It really frustrates me I love him to bits he is wonderful in every other way, we do talk about it sometimes but he just says he doesn't know why he doesn't want it, he says it does upset him that it upsets me that we don't and like all the other girls comments I have read it affects my self esteem. He did once mention to me that when we first started going out I was very confident and that is what he found attractive about me, over the course of our relationship I have lost some of my confidents, maybe that has some thing to do with it, also he is not really into snogging, I think we have snogged twice in our whole relationship when we have been drunk ( he has told me it is because once he was snogging a girl and she bit his toungue and it broke the string bit that attatches it to the bottom of your mouth and it hurts when he snogs, and the other thing is he doesn't have any where as much feeling in his bell end and all the other men i have met as he had his banjo string snapped also!!!). I really don't want to split up with him as he is wonderful and love to make sure i am happy in every other way he is funny, loyal, genuine, tall, dark haired and hanson and gets on really well with my brother and my dad, I would never ever consider cheating on him as I know what it is like to be cheated on and we made a packt when we first got together to never do that. I just don't know what to do I need some help.
My advice to anyone considering cheating because they aren't getting any is DON'T do it, just split up with him because it is heart breaking finding out your partner has cheated (most of my ex's have) get a vibrator, yes it is not the same as having a warm sweaty body close to you but it is better than hurting him and it feels great too.
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Hi,
I am having a similar problem. I am 23 my partner is 26 we have been together for 2 1/2 years. At the beggining of our relationship we had sex all the time in the last year and a half he has stopped wanting to he says he doesn't know why, we do it probs once a month sometimes once every two months. It causes arguments some times, I have recently been made redundent so I am at home at alot now and we regularly lyin, every morning i try to turn him on but he just gets up and leaves me there horney as hell pulling my hair out. I have always had a really high sex drive and he used to too. This is the longest relationship either of us have had ( I had a 1 1/2 year relationship in my late teens and his longest is 3months) He is an out of work actor and I know his lack of jobs makes him feel awful about himself I do think he may have a mild form of depression and he lost alot of his family over the past 8years including his mother. We live together and have pretty much since the beggining of our relationship, I know he is not cheating and never would, I have no problem with porn infact i used to enjoy it very much as did he but he went off that ages ago. He used to masterbate between 1 and 2 times aday when we first met for about 2 months but as we were having sex alot he stopped. We are very close and get on very well, he goes out with his mates maybe once every couple of months and we have mutual friends that we see often. I am a pretty brunette, 5ft 5 size 12, my weight has gone up and down over the past few years and I know it is noy because of that because last summer i lost loads of weight and was a size 8 and nothing changed then. It really frustrates me I love him to bits he is wonderful in every other way, we do talk about it sometimes but he just says he doesn't know why he doesn't want it, he says it does upset him that it upsets me that we don't and like all the other girls comments I have read it affects my self esteem. He did once mention to me that when we first started going out I was very confident and that is what he found attractive about me, over the course of our relationship I have lost some of my confidents, maybe that has some thing to do with it, also he is not really into snogging, I think we have snogged twice in our whole relationship when we have been drunk ( he has told me it is because once he was snogging a girl and she bit his toungue and it broke the string bit that attatches it to the bottom of your mouth and it hurts when he snogs, and the other thing is he doesn't have any where as much feeling in his bell end and all the other men i have met as he had his banjo string snapped also!!!). I really don't want to split up with him as he is wonderful and love to make sure i am happy in every other way he is funny, loyal, genuine, tall, dark haired and hanson and gets on really well with my brother and my dad, I would never ever consider cheating on him as I know what it is like to be cheated on and we made a packt when we first got together to never do that. I just don't know what to do I need some help.
My advice to anyone considering cheating because they aren't getting any is DON'T do it, just split up with him because it is heart breaking finding out your partner has cheated (most of my ex's have) get a vibrator, yes it is not the same as having a warm sweaty body close to you but it is better than hurting him and it feels great too.
May 8, 2012 - 3:38pmThis Comment
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