It sucks that something like this has just turned into a bashing. Look, my boyfriend and I have a similar problem to the original posters. Only we've beent together for two years and live together. Reasons for our problems?
1. We live with his parents and brother. Cant be having sex around them.
2. He works, and when he comes home he's tired.
3. We havent been working out, TRUST ME working out is a BIG sex drive factor.
4. When we ARE alone, he's still tired and has a hard time waking up. (Dont be mad, if your boyfriend is like this, your man is making the money, working hard and has a right to be tired. Make him feel relaxed. Get him a beer, a nice back rub, and something to fill his tummy.
5. We're both good looking people, and thats not being vain, because im not saying we're the hottest or anything, but we're highly attracted to eachother, always have been, and we also have to deal with the problem of other people hitting on us. speaking of that
6. Other people TRYING to flirt with your spouse (It pushes you slightly apart...instead, make fun of the person, and stop talking to them)
7. Comming off pushy or greedy. You have to be giving to your spouse. And in time when theres an oppuntunity to, they'll give to you.
If you live with other people, You might be thinking heyyyy, why's he always get it and I dont? Well the answer is, its easier to hide his errection then it is to hide his fingers, or penis inside of you if someone walks in. Also, if your comming off pushy, or needy then it seems like thats all you want and you dont care about how they feel. Also, dont ever listen to the idiot boys who try to say there isnt a man in the world who would pass up sex. Guys dont always want it either. Especially if their in love. Your problem, the reason why your having less sex, could just be that hes THAT in love with you. He wants to enjoy quality time with you without having to touch or kiss or f***. Enjoy that! Dont try to always touch him, or grab him, dont try to always kiss him or tell him how you feel. Just lay or sit there with him, FEEL IT, and savor the quiet moment. You both feel it, your both in love, you dont always have to say it. Look the point is, talk to him. set it up, say hey, can i talk to you about something. im nervous to cause i think you might get mad or upset and i dont want to do that, im just confused. and when he says yes (if he says no or something similar say okay and tell him you'll talk about it another time) just see if you can ask him some questions or something. but keep the conversation short and sweet. dont be bitchy and dont keep going into it. be like, do you still think im beautiful? Do you still think im sexy? Do you still like touching and kissing me? Do you still like being inside of me? Sometimes I feel like you dont anymore, i feel like you never wanna make love to me (PS. DUMB A** LITTLE BOYS, GIRLS ARE ALLOWED TO SAY MAKE LOVE, MEN ARE TOO. SOMETIMES THEY DO, they just think its a funny way to say it. but saying it that way shows you dont wanna just all out f*** that you wanna make a meaningful connection..anyway) Is there something im doing, or something going on thats causing you to want to less? Is there anything I can do that will make you want to more? or to help you relax? make sure he knows its not all about sex, but sex and foreplay is a key part in a woman feeling wanted and sexy and beautiful. Plus, one day, when your alone, have the house together. dress up real pretty, maybe have a date together inside the house, and dont plan for sex. make romance, gentle kisses, sweet whispers. let him know how much you appreciate him, and something i learned recently, thats a major point in being attractive, not only confidence, but one major thing that is sooooo simply easy to do SMILE!!! When you smile your man wants to kiss you more. He gets more enjoyability out of it. Treat him gently, because your a woman, you should be gentle. You wanna have rough sex, go for it, but when your having problems like this sometimes gentleness is perfect. oh yeah most major reason he doesnt wanna have sex....HE'S SCARED OF GETTING YOU PREGNATE. YOUR NOT READY FOR A KID. MOST PEOPLE ARENT. HES NOT READY FOR A KID AND EVEN THOUGH HE MAY WANT ONE HE DOESNT WANT ONE YET. So especially if you've had scares before, that could be a major reason. okay well I hope this helps. and i hope you trash talking idiots learn their your lesson and ciate la boca! ps. dont even try saying my boyfriend is cheating, he is with me ALL the time. the only time we're not together is work and school, and trust me, im positive he doenst have time to be banging the girls he works with. Plus half of them are fat and neither of us are attracted to fat people (for those fat people having these problems. im sorry, and i mean no offence, but if you dont like it, work out. theres a great program called insanity. cry through it, want to die, but tough it out and you'll look great in the end. good luck...but seriously loose some weight...and burn that swim suit)
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It sucks that something like this has just turned into a bashing. Look, my boyfriend and I have a similar problem to the original posters. Only we've beent together for two years and live together. Reasons for our problems?
1. We live with his parents and brother. Cant be having sex around them.
2. He works, and when he comes home he's tired.
3. We havent been working out, TRUST ME working out is a BIG sex drive factor.
4. When we ARE alone, he's still tired and has a hard time waking up. (Dont be mad, if your boyfriend is like this, your man is making the money, working hard and has a right to be tired. Make him feel relaxed. Get him a beer, a nice back rub, and something to fill his tummy.
5. We're both good looking people, and thats not being vain, because im not saying we're the hottest or anything, but we're highly attracted to eachother, always have been, and we also have to deal with the problem of other people hitting on us. speaking of that
6. Other people TRYING to flirt with your spouse (It pushes you slightly apart...instead, make fun of the person, and stop talking to them)
7. Comming off pushy or greedy. You have to be giving to your spouse. And in time when theres an oppuntunity to, they'll give to you.
If you live with other people, You might be thinking heyyyy, why's he always get it and I dont? Well the answer is, its easier to hide his errection then it is to hide his fingers, or penis inside of you if someone walks in. Also, if your comming off pushy, or needy then it seems like thats all you want and you dont care about how they feel. Also, dont ever listen to the idiot boys who try to say there isnt a man in the world who would pass up sex. Guys dont always want it either. Especially if their in love. Your problem, the reason why your having less sex, could just be that hes THAT in love with you. He wants to enjoy quality time with you without having to touch or kiss or f***. Enjoy that! Dont try to always touch him, or grab him, dont try to always kiss him or tell him how you feel. Just lay or sit there with him, FEEL IT, and savor the quiet moment. You both feel it, your both in love, you dont always have to say it. Look the point is, talk to him. set it up, say hey, can i talk to you about something. im nervous to cause i think you might get mad or upset and i dont want to do that, im just confused. and when he says yes (if he says no or something similar say okay and tell him you'll talk about it another time) just see if you can ask him some questions or something. but keep the conversation short and sweet. dont be bitchy and dont keep going into it. be like, do you still think im beautiful? Do you still think im sexy? Do you still like touching and kissing me? Do you still like being inside of me? Sometimes I feel like you dont anymore, i feel like you never wanna make love to me (PS. DUMB A** LITTLE BOYS, GIRLS ARE ALLOWED TO SAY MAKE LOVE, MEN ARE TOO. SOMETIMES THEY DO, they just think its a funny way to say it. but saying it that way shows you dont wanna just all out f*** that you wanna make a meaningful connection..anyway) Is there something im doing, or something going on thats causing you to want to less? Is there anything I can do that will make you want to more? or to help you relax? make sure he knows its not all about sex, but sex and foreplay is a key part in a woman feeling wanted and sexy and beautiful. Plus, one day, when your alone, have the house together. dress up real pretty, maybe have a date together inside the house, and dont plan for sex. make romance, gentle kisses, sweet whispers. let him know how much you appreciate him, and something i learned recently, thats a major point in being attractive, not only confidence, but one major thing that is sooooo simply easy to do SMILE!!! When you smile your man wants to kiss you more. He gets more enjoyability out of it. Treat him gently, because your a woman, you should be gentle. You wanna have rough sex, go for it, but when your having problems like this sometimes gentleness is perfect. oh yeah most major reason he doesnt wanna have sex....HE'S SCARED OF GETTING YOU PREGNATE. YOUR NOT READY FOR A KID. MOST PEOPLE ARENT. HES NOT READY FOR A KID AND EVEN THOUGH HE MAY WANT ONE HE DOESNT WANT ONE YET. So especially if you've had scares before, that could be a major reason. okay well I hope this helps. and i hope you trash talking idiots learn their your lesson and ciate la boca! ps. dont even try saying my boyfriend is cheating, he is with me ALL the time. the only time we're not together is work and school, and trust me, im positive he doenst have time to be banging the girls he works with. Plus half of them are fat and neither of us are attracted to fat people (for those fat people having these problems. im sorry, and i mean no offence, but if you dont like it, work out. theres a great program called insanity. cry through it, want to die, but tough it out and you'll look great in the end. good luck...but seriously loose some weight...and burn that swim suit)
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