Hi. I searched this today. My boyfriend tells his friends we have sex all of the time. I'm flattered that he tells them about how awesome I am, because I try so hard to impress my boyfriend with everything I do in our relationship. I do anything sexual that he wants whenever he wants. He tells them that. They envy him and I feel like I'm doing my job correctly for them to think that way. He also tells them that he makes me cum all of the time. The truth is, he's only made me cum maybe twice the year we have been together and nothing like I know I can (not when I'm alone, just in general). He used to talk so much about how much he wants to and what he would do to me, but once given the chance he didn't deliver...ever. Oral happens for him all of the time. Even when I'm down I still go down on him so he will atleast feel good. I told him today that I go down on him because it turns me on to just hear him and feel his hands on my face but the only real thrill I get out of it is imagining what he could be doing to me. Oral NEVER happens for me. I think he's done it maybe 6 times compared to the many many times I do it.
He says he will try harder to just simy have sex with me more often but that will happen for like two days then we will go maybe a month or a month an a half to two months before we have sex more than once in a day. We've never had the sexual relationship where we had to get it on every 5 minutes, everywhere. He says he is completely turned on by me and wants to do so many things to me...he just doesn't. The sad thing is...when I tell him I want to have sex, or if I begin to get frustrated, he completely shuts me out and tells me he doesn't care or it's not important. I know he isn't having sex with anyone else. He's always too tired or his stomach is upset and we go to sleep. It's not exciting when we do have sex because it's ALWAYS in our bed, at night, and quietly (because we live on the second floor in our apartment).
He even said once that he is just lazy sometimes. Too lazy to even get his member up for me to handle. Sometimes I have to almost beg him to let me go down on him. We don't even make out.
I know the guy loves me...it's just that I don't think he is sexually attracted to me. He thinks I will be here no matter what. No matter how many times he actually turns me down.
Now, he has made a drastic move from country to country, new job, less income, new friends, bills (loans), and has been married once, engaged I think two other times. This last relationship lasted him 7 years, on and off. He was telling her he made a mistake by leaving and that he missed and still loved her. He even offered to move her here to be with him. :(
He loves me. I love him, most of the time. He just doesn't satisfy me in more ways than one.
I don't know what to do. Sorry for venting. I know I'm going to en up staying in this unsatisfying relationship. Idk why, but here I am. :( my life used to be so exciting.
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Hi. I searched this today. My boyfriend tells his friends we have sex all of the time. I'm flattered that he tells them about how awesome I am, because I try so hard to impress my boyfriend with everything I do in our relationship. I do anything sexual that he wants whenever he wants. He tells them that. They envy him and I feel like I'm doing my job correctly for them to think that way. He also tells them that he makes me cum all of the time. The truth is, he's only made me cum maybe twice the year we have been together and nothing like I know I can (not when I'm alone, just in general). He used to talk so much about how much he wants to and what he would do to me, but once given the chance he didn't deliver...ever. Oral happens for him all of the time. Even when I'm down I still go down on him so he will atleast feel good. I told him today that I go down on him because it turns me on to just hear him and feel his hands on my face but the only real thrill I get out of it is imagining what he could be doing to me. Oral NEVER happens for me. I think he's done it maybe 6 times compared to the many many times I do it.
He says he will try harder to just simy have sex with me more often but that will happen for like two days then we will go maybe a month or a month an a half to two months before we have sex more than once in a day. We've never had the sexual relationship where we had to get it on every 5 minutes, everywhere. He says he is completely turned on by me and wants to do so many things to me...he just doesn't. The sad thing is...when I tell him I want to have sex, or if I begin to get frustrated, he completely shuts me out and tells me he doesn't care or it's not important. I know he isn't having sex with anyone else. He's always too tired or his stomach is upset and we go to sleep. It's not exciting when we do have sex because it's ALWAYS in our bed, at night, and quietly (because we live on the second floor in our apartment).
He even said once that he is just lazy sometimes. Too lazy to even get his member up for me to handle. Sometimes I have to almost beg him to let me go down on him. We don't even make out.
I know the guy loves me...it's just that I don't think he is sexually attracted to me. He thinks I will be here no matter what. No matter how many times he actually turns me down.
Now, he has made a drastic move from country to country, new job, less income, new friends, bills (loans), and has been married once, engaged I think two other times. This last relationship lasted him 7 years, on and off. He was telling her he made a mistake by leaving and that he missed and still loved her. He even offered to move her here to be with him. :(
He loves me. I love him, most of the time. He just doesn't satisfy me in more ways than one.
I don't know what to do. Sorry for venting. I know I'm going to en up staying in this unsatisfying relationship. Idk why, but here I am. :( my life used to be so exciting.
December 4, 2011 - 6:34pmThis Comment
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