Thank you so much for your comments. I am sorry your condition has cause you worry. I can imagine the cycle of embarrassment, then shame that you can't overcome those feelings. In your shoes, I would probably feel exactly the same way.
I also work hard to value my body just as it is. But there's no denying that there are certain societal norms in play. Especially here in the US, where media and moneymaking reign supreme, the ideal body images we currently celebrate are everywhere. Absolutely unavoidable.
Few of us would by into the notion that we need to look like a cover girl. But even if corporations are unsuccessful in convincing us of that, they have succeeded in making us aware of societal norms. With so many images bombarding us, we've come to know well when body parts (noses, breasts, chins) fall within normal ranges and when they don't. For better or probably worse, we are hyper aware these days.
I obviously touched a nerve with many women. For those with tuberous breasts who accept them and don't burn precious energy feeling bad about them--that's truly wonderful. But I just don't understand women who condemn others for "fixing" a condition that's outside societal norms and causes them pain.
If you choose surgery, please don't spend a moment feeling guilty. In the right hands (make sure your surgeon has plenty of experience with breasts like yours) the procedure is not hugely invasive, or life threatening. Nor is it a cop out. And it's not a procedure many people might raise an eyebrow over thinking it's "frivolous" or otherwise "out there." You would simply be seeking to fine tune a congenital condition so you look more like the majority of women.
You put it well when you say that something like this is not worth wasting worry and time over. From another angle, if a simple procedure would free you from something like this that holds you back, why not consider it?
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Thank you so much for your comments. I am sorry your condition has cause you worry. I can imagine the cycle of embarrassment, then shame that you can't overcome those feelings. In your shoes, I would probably feel exactly the same way.
I also work hard to value my body just as it is. But there's no denying that there are certain societal norms in play. Especially here in the US, where media and moneymaking reign supreme, the ideal body images we currently celebrate are everywhere. Absolutely unavoidable.
Few of us would by into the notion that we need to look like a cover girl. But even if corporations are unsuccessful in convincing us of that, they have succeeded in making us aware of societal norms. With so many images bombarding us, we've come to know well when body parts (noses, breasts, chins) fall within normal ranges and when they don't. For better or probably worse, we are hyper aware these days.
I obviously touched a nerve with many women. For those with tuberous breasts who accept them and don't burn precious energy feeling bad about them--that's truly wonderful. But I just don't understand women who condemn others for "fixing" a condition that's outside societal norms and causes them pain.
If you choose surgery, please don't spend a moment feeling guilty. In the right hands (make sure your surgeon has plenty of experience with breasts like yours) the procedure is not hugely invasive, or life threatening. Nor is it a cop out. And it's not a procedure many people might raise an eyebrow over thinking it's "frivolous" or otherwise "out there." You would simply be seeking to fine tune a congenital condition so you look more like the majority of women.
You put it well when you say that something like this is not worth wasting worry and time over. From another angle, if a simple procedure would free you from something like this that holds you back, why not consider it?
Best of luck to you.
November 12, 2010 - 11:42amThis Comment
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