I really appreciate not only your words but just the fact that you are entering into this discussion. I especially love that you wrote: "Men's eyes may be vulgar. Their hearts are not." This is a very profound statement whether you realize it or not. I'm not sure we need to use labels such as "feminist" or "anti-feminist" because I think we all get trapped by these labels and there is little to no breathing room for diversity there. I suppose my point is more that women have begun devaluing themselves as people again and have placed a higher emphasis on their physical attributes than ever before. I am not laying blame at men's feet and I agree with you that women spend more money and effort as consumers. This is why I choose to address this issue in a women's forum - because WOMEN need to acknowledge and deal with their own self image... while men may have a certain taste for things, we are the ones who choose to have that control our presentation of ourselves to them (you).
I know many wonderful men, including my husband, who freely admit and embrace a tendency toward intense visual stimulation; they also happen to be loving, supportive, funny, talented and gentle people.
I think I am concerned with our cultural values as a whole, and men are victims or products of this media bombardment just as women are.
Thanks for your thoughts, I sincerely appreciate hearing your comments.
Good luck with the work situation, and, by the way - staying home with the kids??!!! You Go for it!!!! Completely wonderful; your fiancee is a lucky woman.
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I really appreciate not only your words but just the fact that you are entering into this discussion. I especially love that you wrote: "Men's eyes may be vulgar. Their hearts are not." This is a very profound statement whether you realize it or not. I'm not sure we need to use labels such as "feminist" or "anti-feminist" because I think we all get trapped by these labels and there is little to no breathing room for diversity there. I suppose my point is more that women have begun devaluing themselves as people again and have placed a higher emphasis on their physical attributes than ever before. I am not laying blame at men's feet and I agree with you that women spend more money and effort as consumers. This is why I choose to address this issue in a women's forum - because WOMEN need to acknowledge and deal with their own self image... while men may have a certain taste for things, we are the ones who choose to have that control our presentation of ourselves to them (you).
I know many wonderful men, including my husband, who freely admit and embrace a tendency toward intense visual stimulation; they also happen to be loving, supportive, funny, talented and gentle people.
I think I am concerned with our cultural values as a whole, and men are victims or products of this media bombardment just as women are.
Thanks for your thoughts, I sincerely appreciate hearing your comments.
April 16, 2009 - 4:57amGood luck with the work situation, and, by the way - staying home with the kids??!!! You Go for it!!!! Completely wonderful; your fiancee is a lucky woman.
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