This is a really tough question for me-- while I don't want to tell you to think of all the possible risks, I can't help but go back to that and the fact that you will be between 47 and 50 by the time the baby is born. My mom means the world to me. I am not ready to let her go and she is 58 and I'm 23. Your baby will be *maybe* 8 to 10 years old when you're 58.
The reason why I am so torn is because I don't want to tell you "No, you shouldn't have a baby at your age" because it really isn't fair to be told that.
What I will say is most likely what you already know. The risks of having a child with a disability or disabilities increases when you reach 35 and you have well surpassed that age. If you are ready and willing to accept your child as it may come, then who am I to tell you not to try. But, there are women who make the attempt to get pregnant at a later age and once they are told that their little one is not "normal" they decide on abortion which I think is selfish if it was your choice to get pregnant at your age knowing the risks. (I am NOT saying that this is what you will do, just an example)
If you feel like you have enough energy to raise a baby, is adoption something being considered? or is it out of the question?
I cannot and will not tell you what to do but please think about the pros and cons thoroughly. Good luck with your decision!
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This is a really tough question for me-- while I don't want to tell you to think of all the possible risks, I can't help but go back to that and the fact that you will be between 47 and 50 by the time the baby is born. My mom means the world to me. I am not ready to let her go and she is 58 and I'm 23. Your baby will be *maybe* 8 to 10 years old when you're 58.
June 12, 2009 - 5:56amThe reason why I am so torn is because I don't want to tell you "No, you shouldn't have a baby at your age" because it really isn't fair to be told that.
What I will say is most likely what you already know. The risks of having a child with a disability or disabilities increases when you reach 35 and you have well surpassed that age. If you are ready and willing to accept your child as it may come, then who am I to tell you not to try. But, there are women who make the attempt to get pregnant at a later age and once they are told that their little one is not "normal" they decide on abortion which I think is selfish if it was your choice to get pregnant at your age knowing the risks. (I am NOT saying that this is what you will do, just an example)
If you feel like you have enough energy to raise a baby, is adoption something being considered? or is it out of the question?
I cannot and will not tell you what to do but please think about the pros and cons thoroughly. Good luck with your decision!
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