Just as every relationship is unique, so are the reasons or causes behind your partner's choices in his behavior towards you. We have compiled the “best responses” received from both men and women in regards to your specific question, and hope you read through them thoughtfully. Women have been going through the same struggles, and have shared their insight and lessons learned. Men have also shared why they did not want to have sex in their strained relationships. Please let us know what “words of wisdom” or “tips” resonated with you from the following articles:
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In regard to your specific situation, is your husband's problem medical? Would your husband go to marital counseling with you? If he won't, you may have to just take care of yourself. Would you consider counseling alone if he won't go--no doubt his lack of intimacy has affected you, and a trained counselor could help you to know next steps given your situation. Many health insurance providers offer assistance covering cost of behavioral health services. I realize you may be in a complicated situation being from another country, but please understand that in the United States, you do have options. Let us know if you need help finding resources.
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