I'm a 60 ish year old who has put up with what you have for 43 years. I've been without sex, intimacy, affection for 26 of those horrible years. It was my fault for not leaving my husband. He had E/D problems and other issues early in our marriage. And he was really happy that he couldn't have sex with me. I explained my needs and he just said find something else to satisfy my needs. I really hate where I ended up. I'm such an ass for not seeing the forest for the trees. To him were just friends, I just feel like his trash. I could have made a real man really happy who appreciated me. One who enjoyed sex any time and when ever and where ever.
Go find a man who will treat like his own personal woman of the evening. Dump your current man.