Hi Anonymous,
Thank your for your comment and for being a part of the EmpowHER community. I am sorry for all the pain you seem to have in your life. It is completely understandable in my mind that after 30 years of marriage, there may be some things you both need to work out. Bad habits are hard to break for sure. What concerns me most is your mention of anxiety and depression. Are you being treated for these conditions? Are you going to counseling for yourself? Have you been to see a doctor about your weight loss, just to make sure there isn't a condition you're not recognizing.
You say your husband is your best friend but yet you don't trust him. I don't know what I would do if I couldn't trust my best friend. Has he ever cheated on you? Or is his gawking and internet behavior your major concern? Does he chat with the women on the websites? Does he have a porn addiction? Has this come up in counseling?
Regardless, you personally can work on your trust issue, etc. by reading self-help books, or focusing on it in you own counseling. You have everything to gain in self-confidence, improved health, etc. by working on improving yourself. I sincerely hope you and your husband can work it out, but as a woman who has been divorced, I know sometimes it's better to walk away. My experience is very different. I was only married 2 years. My current marriage is 6 years.
If I overlooked a particular question you were wanting a response to, please let us know. Good luck and let us know how you are doing.
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Hi Anonymous,
October 6, 2010 - 12:56pmThank your for your comment and for being a part of the EmpowHER community. I am sorry for all the pain you seem to have in your life. It is completely understandable in my mind that after 30 years of marriage, there may be some things you both need to work out. Bad habits are hard to break for sure. What concerns me most is your mention of anxiety and depression. Are you being treated for these conditions? Are you going to counseling for yourself? Have you been to see a doctor about your weight loss, just to make sure there isn't a condition you're not recognizing.
You say your husband is your best friend but yet you don't trust him. I don't know what I would do if I couldn't trust my best friend. Has he ever cheated on you? Or is his gawking and internet behavior your major concern? Does he chat with the women on the websites? Does he have a porn addiction? Has this come up in counseling?
Regardless, you personally can work on your trust issue, etc. by reading self-help books, or focusing on it in you own counseling. You have everything to gain in self-confidence, improved health, etc. by working on improving yourself. I sincerely hope you and your husband can work it out, but as a woman who has been divorced, I know sometimes it's better to walk away. My experience is very different. I was only married 2 years. My current marriage is 6 years.
If I overlooked a particular question you were wanting a response to, please let us know. Good luck and let us know how you are doing.
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