Reading these posts makes me feel extremely sad, but at the same time I see that I'm not alone. I am 45 years old and I've been married to my husband for 6 years. As of this day, it's been over two years since he has slept in the same bed with me. It's been over 6 months since we have had sex (only because I pretty much begged for it). And even that felt like it was more of a quicky to quiet me down. About a month ago I asked him to be intimate. His answer was "tomorrow", which never came. I have learned to live without the sex although I get the "itch" once and a while which makes me feel miserable because I know he won't do anything about it.
What makes things worse is that he won't even hug me, caress me or do anything that requires a physical touch. I'm always the one asking for and giving hugs and kisses and frankly it gets old. Don't get me wrong; I love my husband and I know he loves me but like so many others who have posted here, he thinks he can substitute physical attention with gifts. I have told him before that I don't want gifts, I want him. He tells me he will work on it but I have yet to see a change.
I am a christian woman. I don't believe having a fling just to satisfy my sexual urges is going to solve anything. I have my moments when I get so depressed even at church when I am sitting behind couples (who are approximately my age), and the husband puts his arm around his wife. It's just human nature to desire physical affection. I am grateful that I have the Lord in my life, because I don't know how else I could gather strength to live like this. I will pray for every woman going through this situation.
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Reading these posts makes me feel extremely sad, but at the same time I see that I'm not alone. I am 45 years old and I've been married to my husband for 6 years. As of this day, it's been over two years since he has slept in the same bed with me. It's been over 6 months since we have had sex (only because I pretty much begged for it). And even that felt like it was more of a quicky to quiet me down. About a month ago I asked him to be intimate. His answer was "tomorrow", which never came. I have learned to live without the sex although I get the "itch" once and a while which makes me feel miserable because I know he won't do anything about it.
What makes things worse is that he won't even hug me, caress me or do anything that requires a physical touch. I'm always the one asking for and giving hugs and kisses and frankly it gets old. Don't get me wrong; I love my husband and I know he loves me but like so many others who have posted here, he thinks he can substitute physical attention with gifts. I have told him before that I don't want gifts, I want him. He tells me he will work on it but I have yet to see a change.
I am a christian woman. I don't believe having a fling just to satisfy my sexual urges is going to solve anything. I have my moments when I get so depressed even at church when I am sitting behind couples (who are approximately my age), and the husband puts his arm around his wife. It's just human nature to desire physical affection. I am grateful that I have the Lord in my life, because I don't know how else I could gather strength to live like this. I will pray for every woman going through this situation.
March 21, 2010 - 11:54amThis Comment
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