Just reaching out to an "unknown third party". When I met my beau we made love every night. He had a seasonal job and was off work. I was working and many times I was so tired from the job but if he approached me, I was always delightfully accommodating. Later on in our relationship, I was laid off from my job. He began to look for ways to bring in a second income to balance out our finances. Although, I was home everyday I began noticing that our lovemaking went from two times a week to every three weeks. I brought it to his attention and he explained that he was overwhelm with trying to find jobs to bring in more money to the household. He did finally find some work situations that bring us more money and now I've noticed that almost a month has gone by and he has not approached me sexually.
I don't believe that he is having an affair because he is home with me all the time. I do feel that he loves me. We have fun together and hold each other when we go to bed but no sex. True I could approach him but I did once and he just moved my hand and after me telling him off. I promised him that I would never again approach him.
He use to have a hard time communicating his feelings to me but he has gotten so much better. He is a very caring person and treats me wonderfully otherwise. We live in Los Angeles and he is a bodybuilder and women go crazy over him. He doesn't seem to pay attention to ladies who flirt with him. He cooks and cleans with me and except for this lack of sex we compliment each other.
I feel so unwanted and I am actually very attractive, intelligent, fun and confident but this is really causing me to feel unbalanced and I am thinking about breaking off the relationship after 4 years.
I have read the comments and your advice and I would love your opinion.
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Just reaching out to an "unknown third party". When I met my beau we made love every night. He had a seasonal job and was off work. I was working and many times I was so tired from the job but if he approached me, I was always delightfully accommodating. Later on in our relationship, I was laid off from my job. He began to look for ways to bring in a second income to balance out our finances. Although, I was home everyday I began noticing that our lovemaking went from two times a week to every three weeks. I brought it to his attention and he explained that he was overwhelm with trying to find jobs to bring in more money to the household. He did finally find some work situations that bring us more money and now I've noticed that almost a month has gone by and he has not approached me sexually.
I don't believe that he is having an affair because he is home with me all the time. I do feel that he loves me. We have fun together and hold each other when we go to bed but no sex. True I could approach him but I did once and he just moved my hand and after me telling him off. I promised him that I would never again approach him.
He use to have a hard time communicating his feelings to me but he has gotten so much better. He is a very caring person and treats me wonderfully otherwise. We live in Los Angeles and he is a bodybuilder and women go crazy over him. He doesn't seem to pay attention to ladies who flirt with him. He cooks and cleans with me and except for this lack of sex we compliment each other.
I feel so unwanted and I am actually very attractive, intelligent, fun and confident but this is really causing me to feel unbalanced and I am thinking about breaking off the relationship after 4 years.
I have read the comments and your advice and I would love your opinion.
Thank you for your time and honesty.
March 6, 2010 - 11:49amThis Comment
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