GREAT advice. My fiance and I have been at once per month or once every other month since our daughter was born. She was born with cancer and we've BOTH lost jobs this year and he started school. I was so confused because I use sex as a 'distraction' or a way to have a release, so I'm always wanting it. I've figured out that he's not the same way, he's feeling guilty because he's not the 'provider' he wants to be and he feels really helpless about our daughter's health and doesn't have the great network of confidantes that I have. Our daughter is now in remission and our financial situation is getting more stable. I've just decided to focus on myself until he is feeling more stable. I'm back to pre-baby weight and trying to tone up a bit more and focusing on knitting & reading before bed. I still let him know I'm interested, but I quit pressuring him, or crying/guilting him if he's not interested. Once I got past feeling like there was something wrong/repulsive about me, we were able to start being more open about talking about it. We now have a sex-related conversation at least once a week and we keep it real positive, and even though we're not having sex as often as I would like (still about once per month), I know things are getting better.
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GREAT advice. My fiance and I have been at once per month or once every other month since our daughter was born. She was born with cancer and we've BOTH lost jobs this year and he started school. I was so confused because I use sex as a 'distraction' or a way to have a release, so I'm always wanting it. I've figured out that he's not the same way, he's feeling guilty because he's not the 'provider' he wants to be and he feels really helpless about our daughter's health and doesn't have the great network of confidantes that I have. Our daughter is now in remission and our financial situation is getting more stable. I've just decided to focus on myself until he is feeling more stable. I'm back to pre-baby weight and trying to tone up a bit more and focusing on knitting & reading before bed. I still let him know I'm interested, but I quit pressuring him, or crying/guilting him if he's not interested. Once I got past feeling like there was something wrong/repulsive about me, we were able to start being more open about talking about it. We now have a sex-related conversation at least once a week and we keep it real positive, and even though we're not having sex as often as I would like (still about once per month), I know things are getting better.
March 2, 2010 - 9:36pmThis Comment
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