There could be many, many reasons that your husband is not initiating sex as often as you would like. Have you asked him? And, I mean talked with him in a way that is not defensive, blaming, guilt-inducing or anything similar...but just talked with him about your relationship overall, and how he feels about his physical connection and physical intimacy between you two? Really listen to his answer...maybe he is fine having sex once-in-a-while. Maybe he is afraid after seeing his new wife go through uncontrollable bleeding for almost a month (1/3 of your entire marriage!) that he is unsure how to physically approach you, or he is afraid to hurt you? Or, he could be wanting to have sex, but is too tired, stressed, worried, anxious...not feeling like he can live up to the pressure, etc. So many reasons, that they only way to find out is to ask him! Once you two have some conversations about your relationship, including the physical aspects, then you can learn more about what each other's preferences are (frequency, duration, etc.), and then problem-solve. If you both want to have sex or physical contact more often, but life/kids/stress/work/home gets in the way, how do you make time for each other?
Hope this helps...please let us know how your conversations go!
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There could be many, many reasons that your husband is not initiating sex as often as you would like. Have you asked him? And, I mean talked with him in a way that is not defensive, blaming, guilt-inducing or anything similar...but just talked with him about your relationship overall, and how he feels about his physical connection and physical intimacy between you two? Really listen to his answer...maybe he is fine having sex once-in-a-while. Maybe he is afraid after seeing his new wife go through uncontrollable bleeding for almost a month (1/3 of your entire marriage!) that he is unsure how to physically approach you, or he is afraid to hurt you? Or, he could be wanting to have sex, but is too tired, stressed, worried, anxious...not feeling like he can live up to the pressure, etc. So many reasons, that they only way to find out is to ask him! Once you two have some conversations about your relationship, including the physical aspects, then you can learn more about what each other's preferences are (frequency, duration, etc.), and then problem-solve. If you both want to have sex or physical contact more often, but life/kids/stress/work/home gets in the way, how do you make time for each other?
Hope this helps...please let us know how your conversations go!
February 23, 2010 - 3:24pmThis Comment
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