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Wow.I thought I was going crazy until I found this site.
I am nuts about my husband, he is funny, charming, handsome and most of all dedicated. He tells me loves me everyday, we go to church together, and he cares for my daughters from my previous marriage as if they were his own.
Here is where the shoe drops..I don't think he is into me.We have been married for 3 months, and have had sex 9 times..
He jumps when I reach for him, and reacts to my touch in and out of the bed in an estranged manner. I don't nag at him about it, but I have stopped initiating sex. I don't ever catch him "checking me out" as he did when we were dating either.
I try to relieve his workday pressures in little ways, I bring him home lil cards or trinkets when I am out, anything that I can think of doing to ensure that he knows he is valued as a partner first.

I know that he was an avid porn watcher before we married and experimented sexually with another man once, could there be residual effects from this? Could his libido crashed since we married? Am I wrong for desiring sex with my husband once or twice a week? I find myself stalking his ex's online to just to compare myself physically..maybe if I looked more like one of them..
I am going insane, like I should just find meds that kill my drive so that I can stop wanting it..

Any help or suggestion??????, I have decided to back off for another month..if nothing has changed than I will have to bring it up..